(Closed) Moving Freak Out (long)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s time to have that sandwich and a big fat glass of wine.

And then, you need to realize that he’s going to be your fiance, and he wants to help. LET HIM.  It will be better to borrow from him than to take from your savings that will help you get your visa.  Soon, you will have joint bills and joint accounts and it won’t matter anyhow.

Let him help you, that’s what a partner does.  One day he’ll need your help and you can return the favour.  It’s amazing that you have someone in your life who is this awesome.  Don’t be stubborn and struggle when you don’t have to.

Then – have one more glass of wine 😉  And remember – everything works out the way it’s supposed to.  Think positive! It’s a brand new adventure! 

 

Post # 4
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My advice : just breathe. Everything is going to be okay. Keep telling yourself that until you know it’s true. Don’t be afraid to lean on your family and friends during this time. It’s a stressful time. And find something simple and free to do to help you relax. Like maybe a bubble bath or reread your favorite book or spend the day with your best friend laughing over silly things. Just stay calm and focus on how happy you are going to be so very soon.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I graduated sunday, and am apartment hunting tomorrow. i’m stressing too. 

 

it’ll be okay, slowly but surely it will all work out and we will be fine

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@LemonyItch:  OK, I think that someone’s suggestion of a glass of wine might be a good idea. Breathe. Go for a run.

Now, your school is almost over, and your SO will be here soon. 2 or 3 days without communicating isn’t bad, especially since you know in advance that he will be unable to reach you. Definitely take your SO up on his offer to loan you money. You can ALWAYS pay him back with the car money, so you won’t need to take anything from the wedding fund. I’m probably going to be getting a car, possibly borrowing money from my SO, soon, and I very much understand the stress of relying on someone else for a loan, even if they are your husband-to-be. It’s OK to do that, especially when you know you can pay him back soon.

Also, make lists of things you need to do, day by day and possibly week by week. That helps me hugely when I have too much to do, like finals!! That’s what’s happening for me right now, too! I have day-by-day lists on the Stickies things on my computer screen– since I’m constantly on the computer, I always know where my to-do lists are. Lists to follow are very soothing, in a weird way, when you are anxious because there is always something telling you what you must do next.

Also, I find a really good way to cut down on crazy mood swings and crying when I’m ultra stressed is to greatly limit my consumption of coffee. It makes me grumpy, emotional, and intolerant– just awful! If you can, do an intense workout in the morning instead of having coffee (even just 10 minutes). It will wake you up for the whole day even if you are really tired, and it helps with the stress.

Like I said, I, too, am dealing with finals, and multiple commitments starting right up after school ends, and am in a semi-long-distance relationship. You aren’t alone in the super stress!

I hope some of my suggestions help!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LemonyItch:  I just spent the last weekend moving and going to my fiances graduation. My finals are this week and my graduation is this week. We are five weeks from the wedding and I am just getting so stressed. I understand completely. I got through it with a lot of wine and crying. It helped relieve stress lol sometimes you just have to power through and try to only think of what is immediately ahead, like what do I need to do today, not tomorrow or the rest of the week. I also like lists, they help me feel organized.

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