(Closed) Moving house stress! Advice?!

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Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We’re going through a major move in two days–across country to a house we’ve never seen.  

First, remember to breathe.  I’ve moved about a million times & I am a ruthless purger.  I go through my closets & cupboards.  Any clothes I haven’t worn recently or items I don’t use get donated to charity.  Let them come & do the pick up.

That lightens your load right away.

Then break it into baby steps.  Attack one room at a time to pack.  Don’t think about the whole house, you’ll get overwhelmed.  Just one room at a time.  Boxes are inexpensive at Home Depot.

Sit down & talk to your Fi.  Talk about how stressful it is.  Talk about ways to cope without taking it out on each other.  You’re a team.  This is something you’re doing totally together, for your future.

Good luck with your new house!  How exciting.  We could use some pics!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Happy to think I may have hepled.

If anything else occurs to me while I’m packing today, I’ll post.

Are you renting a truck?  Rent the next size up from what you think you need.  Better to have a little extra space–not likely, than not enough.

US Bees who are moving soon–we found a big ($1000) difference between renting with Budget vs U Haul or Ryder.

Be careful when you pack books–they weigh a ton, so don’t pack too many per box.

You can also do a yard sale to get rid of uneeded items.  Not an option for us because of our HOA, but a good way to go if you have time.  Dh tends to hang onto stuff & he’s regretting it now, while I purge everything but books, of which I have a million.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Start packing early! And get rid of stuff you don’t use. Label all boxes – you could Colour code them for when you move – yellow stickers mean kitchen, blue means master bedroom, etc. If you label as you go it makes it so much easier on the moving day. Use small boxes for heavy things (books). For packing clothes – leave them on the hangers and just put garbage bags over top (poke a hole in the bottom of the garbage bag for the tops of the hangers to come out) – then just take the garbage bag off and hang them up at the new place. Bubble wrap all pictures in frames, canvasses, etc. Start collecting newspaper for wrapping dishes & other breakable things. For boxes – stop by places like Walmart to see if they have any boxes that they’ve unpacked from stock. That’s how we scored some free boxes 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

Congratulations on the house! Darling Husband and I have moved about 12 times in the 10 years we’ve been together and it’s ALWAYS stressful haha. You’d think we would have gotten the hang of it by now! Just remember to keep your eye on the prize. The next few weeks will be stressful, but it will be so awesome when you are in your new house!! Do something special on your first night. I kept a small box in my car that had our champagne glasses in it when we closed on our house. We didn’t even move anything in that day, we just sat in our big empty house eating take out and drinking champagne on our kitchen floor and soaking it all in.

Anyways, in terms of moving, PPs gave some great advice. The most helpful thing for us is to start packing as early as possible. Look around and pack things that you know you won’t need anytime soon (winter clothes, decorations, etc).

Set aside a few boxes (or in my case a whole freakin’ room) for things you want to donate. If you’re going to buy boxes UHaul has a buy back program where they will take back unused boxes if you buy too many.

Label EVERYTHING! I gave each box a number and wrote which room it belonged to. Then I had a notebook where I wrote down the box number and listed everything that was in it. Probably excessive, but it made it soooo much easier when we first moved in and I was like WHICH BOX HAS THE DAMN FRYING PAN IN IT?!

I also numbered everything because we used movers for that particular move. I knew how many boxes we had packed so I could just count them when the movers brought them in to make sure we weren’t missing anything. Are you using movers or are you moving yourself? Is it a local move or long distance? 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 

cbops:  My Husband and i just closed on our house 1 week from returning from our Honeymoon. I say get a plan together! And start as early as possible it may not look like a lot but once you start packing you won’t believe how much stuff you have!

We boxed up 1 room at a time and while we were boxing up we made a Goodwill pile to donate stuff. We never unboxed our wedding or shower gifts and i took all duplicates (current owned) and put them in the goodwill pile because we got upgrades on a lot of kitchen stuff from the wedding/shower.

Put all clothes in Suitcases and all hanging stuff put in garbage bags with the hangers where you tie it (thank you Pinterest!!!). This has helped me bunches with moves it makes it soooo easy to move your closet!

Because I’m super OCD and organized i color coated the boxes with colored tape for each room or you can get wide tape and write what room it needs to go to. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 

cbops:  Also if you have the time do as much as you can to the new house as possible BEFORE you move. We are renting and extended out lease for 1 month so we didn’t have to move in 2 weeks (closed on the 17 and lease was up at the end of month). In the month of extra time we had we were able to paint the master, Living room, Bathrooms and 2 of the 3 guest bedrooms. We hung pictures, Curtain rods, Curtains and built a storage shed for the back yard (while we were packing up the rental, moved my furniture from storage to the new house before moving the master and living room.  It was kinds crazy for a week or 2 but I would have much rather done it this way them to move everything in 2 weeks them try to paint and do all that other stuff. This way we were able to slowly move our boxes and furniture over and they were able to go to their designated place in the house and don’t need to be moved again.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

My biggest tip is pack everything soft in garbage bags and everything else in boxes. We put all clothing, comforters, pillows, etc in bags. They are easy to carry, squish down nicely for the truck, load beautifully in the car and you know what to start unpacking 1st – the kitchen, the bedding and the clothing. You aren’t left breaking down a gazillion cardboard boxes when you’re done either! Sure, it’s a lil tacky but it works!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Moving is inherently stressful. Darling Husband and I rent, so we tend to move every two years or so… basically when the apt. we’re living in hikes up the rent highter than we’re willing/able to pay. 

I suggest marking the most important boxes with the name of the room, a description of items, and OPEN FIRST written on them. It makes life so much easier. 

Also, keep a small backpack of “self care” items – for me, my best bathing products, my favorite after -work sweatshirt, a small bottle of sake with a serving set, a relaxing hobby item to keep me occupied when my body is too tired to continue packing. Think of things that relax you! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

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cbops:  When are you and Fiance moving into your new home?  FI and I purchased a home in February and had a post occupancy agreement with the Seller.  It was expected they’d move out mid-May due to the wife being in her 3rd trimester.  Well, their baby arrived early April and they moved mid-April.  So during this time (though our house doesn’t need any reno we’re just painting, decorating and our custom made furniture are slowly arriving each week.) We’ve also slowly moved our things into our new home though we’re not living in it yet (until after our May 2015 wedding.)  When packing I try to group bathroom items together, kitchen things in same boxes, etc. and label them so that I know what is in each box and where boxes are to be placed when I or our helper unload them from the car.  It’s really not worth stressing over as there are bigger things to worry about and this is definitely not one of them.  This is to be some of the happiest moments shared together and you’ll look back on this and say, “You know that wasn’t so bad.”  My Fiance gets stressed easily too and he has a tougher time dealing with stress so I’m the one that has to hold the anchor for the two of us; that’s not to say I don’t get stressed I just handle it better than he does.  Best wishes to the both of you!     

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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cbops:  +1 to PP about purging, packing one room at a time, and packing clothes in garbage bags.  

Pack essentials in a separate box/luggage that you’ll need right away like your toothbrush, toilet paper, scissors, etc.  Be as specific as you can and list out what exactly is in the box.  For example, if you’re trying to find a cup for water, you don’t want to have to go through 5 boxes lableled “Kitchen”.

Congrats on the new house!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Color coding was AWESOME when we moved last year! It made our volunteer movers (family/friends) way more confident in moving our stuff with us as they never once had to ask what room a box went in. I made a cheat sheet guide and put it in the new apartment for people to check. 

I used those little circle colored stickers – you can buy packs of like 500 with four or five different colors for just a few dollars. 

If you need boxes, check liquor stores for sturdy small ones and Craigslist for people giving away boxes after a recent move. 

I also had a big clear plastic bin with a lid for “day of” stuff and it was a lifesaver. I included a change of clothes, tape, a pen, and a ton of other stuff I thought we might need!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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KitSnicket:  

I use those little round stickers, too.  Only to signal Dh which boxes/bags (I use trash bags also) are going with us & which get donated.

So far, he hasn’t cracked the code.  He still doesn’t get that he’s supposed to look for a sticker.  It’s so much easier to track me down & ask me.

I second the idea of packing a suitcase full of essentials.  I pack it the same as I would if I were going out of town.

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