(Closed) Moving in…

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think 5 months is too soon, when you know you know!! If he’s a great guy I’m sure your parents will like him regardless! Like you said y’all are 26 and 29 so they don’t really have a say anyway. I mean what difference wil it really make if you wait and they meet him once? I would go for it!

Post # 4
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly, if you both seem ready then do it, if your willing.


Post # 5
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you want to, then go for it.  A lease is easier to get out of if something were to happen than buying a home together so it’s a good first step!

Post # 7
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds like you need to ask yourself how you would feel if your parents didn’t like him or did not approve of him moving in. I think you are both old enough to live togeher and tell your parents that you live together when the visit (personally I would not bring it up unless they asked). If they disapprove, will it change your opinion of him? If yes, then maybe you should wait. If not, tell him that and tell him that you want him to move in officially. It sounds to me like you are not happy without your parents approval though, especially because it influenced a past relationship.

Post # 8
2892 posts
Sugar bee

We’re 26 and 29, parents should not get a say.

There’s your answer. Move in, have them meet this spring, if there are any issues just explain that it was financially responsible and you didn’t want to run into any problems with lease violations. Maybe they won’t be thrilled. But so long as they can recognize the legitimacy of those points and see your BF isn’t a dirt bag, they should be fine. You’re almost 30. You’re both adults, living your own lives. Their opinion, while it can matter, shouldn’t matter so much as to destroy your relationship. If the relationship is truly meant to be, something like parents being temporarily uncomfortable, shouldn’t be an issue. And you can always explain to them that you wanted them to meet before he moved but the timing was just bad but you’re glad they’re meeting now.

Post # 9
1747 posts
Bumble bee

@google: If its important that he likes your family then can the two of you fly out to visit them? You see marriage as two people joining together and he sees it as family joining together. Its hard to make a commitment to a person and not know where they come from. For all he knows your family could be whack jobs. That may not stop him from loving you and being with you but at least he is aware of what he is getting into:0) Let the man meet your family and go from there, whats the hurry?

Post # 10
1132 posts
Bumble bee

i moved in with my boyfriend after about 2-3 months. Crazy early but that’s just how it worked out 🙂 We’ve been together ever since, it will be 3 years in May since I became his gf! So don’t worry about time, if you’re ready, then you’re ready!

Post # 11
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Why dont you just call up your parents and explain the situation? I understand it can be awkward if they haven’t met him yet, so by chatting to them you are informing them of the situation and how you feel about each other. Perhaps he could also be there with you on the phone?

I moved in with my BF after 7 months together and we were concerned at first our parents would think it was too soon, but all agreed that we were meant to be together so they did not mind at all.

Good luck!

Post # 12
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think 5 months is too soon, we moved in together after about 5, going on 6 months. We are getting married in 6 months and have been together almost 3 years!

Anyway…if sounds as though you might be a little uncomfortable with a few things…such as the parents knowing, your building getting suspicious, people thinking it is ‘too early’. Why not wait until your parents meet him, so you can at least have a clear conscious about that, and by that time you will have been together a little longer so you won’t worry about what others think?

I know it doesnt matter what others think, but I know for me, I still want my parents to be happy with my choices even though I am 25. If you give it until then, I bet things will work out in your favor!

Post # 13
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I met my Fiance in Oct 2008 and he asked me to move in with him Feb. 2009, but I couldn’t actually do it till August 2009.  I had to find a new job because he lived two hours away. We now have lived together for 3+ years.  This is what my man said to me when I expressed concern about how fast we were going “when you know you know”.  Go for it.

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