(Closed) Moving in?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 4
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1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know how you’ll get past these feelings of anxiety. It is a big chance for someone who hasn’t had had a live-in s.o.   But it really isn’t bad once you do it!  Do you know why you’re feeling terrified?

Post # 5
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340 posts
Helper bee

I know some people say moving in is a huge deal and changes your relationship so much, but for mine it wasn’t the case at all. We’ve been together for 8 months with half of them living together and nothing has changed except the obvious of having an every night sleep over with your best friend 🙂 What could be better!? We joke about how much gas money we save now that we don’t drive 20 mins to spend the night every night any way. We both work full time and have various hobbies and friends we hangout with so we get our alone time and have stuff to talk about then. My advice is to keep your friends and hobbies so you aren’t always home together and everything will feel the same as when dating.

Post # 7
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

He started sleeping over about a month in and within 2 months I had a drawer cleared out for him. I really dont agree with just living together I think its important to have a trial period. Make sure there is an extra space to sleep because youll suddenly find out if hes a loud snorer possibly in the middle of the night. Try to find out as much about each other before hand like favorite meals and what your expectations are on dishes and things like that are really important when living together and make sure you have your own space and your own time set out for breaks. Darling Husband and I live together and work together but it took a lot of work to be able to see each other this much and not fight about it (ok he did get upset at me today at work but that happens). Good luck with everything and dont forget to talk and never go to bed mad at each other (this can mean talking till 3am about something when youll only get 4 hours sleep but trust me it works).

Post # 8
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1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TheSpoons:  Oh, ok!  You’ll be fine.  I’m glad to hear that you’re engaged.  The “wait” gets hard when you’re living together.  I think you need to sit down with the Fiance and go over things like who will take care of chores, paying bills and how much space/time do you need for yourself.   I’m sure you’re aware of your arguing style by now but if you’re living in close quarters, it might not be easy to handle a fight.  So, I’ll talk about that, too. 

I’m actually not living with my Fiance right now.  So, I also have slight anxiety about that, to!  We will be living together after our wedding. 

Post # 11
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2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Have you lived with anyone besides your parents before?

I think most people these days live with roommates at some point (college, first apartment, etc) and that helps them have the skills to navigate the little conflicts that arise when you realize someone’s habits are a bit different than yours. 

For most people, this stuff isn’t a big deal.  If you’ve never been out of your parents’ home, I could see the transition being a little bumpy as you figure out what you do and don’t like about how you lived before and define how you’ll live together moving foward.

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