Post # 1
Who is (or has) moving in with their husband AFTER the wedding? I’m a bit stressed about the whole wedding/honemoon/move trifecta. How can this be done sanely? We are in NYC, so we don’t want to carry two rents longer than we have to, so it needs to be fast. AND living together prior tothe wedding is not an option. What are some tips/lessons learned out there on what seems to be a perfect storm of stress?
Post # 3
Clean out your stuff FIRST. Make room for his. My husband moved home like, 6 months after we got married, but I literally cleaned out half my closet for him, emptied drawers, donated bags of clothes to Goodwill, etc. It was a HUGE pain (i was so used to the space!) but it would’ve been worse if i’d waited for him to bring his stuff in first, THEN trying to fit it in. I’d start moving stuff over there asap, though. Donate duplicates–dishes you don’t need, the second food processor, coffee makers, etc.
Post # 4
Wow I’m in awe of you doing all that in such a tight timeframe!
It’s a little unclear, are you moving into his current apartment, or are you getting a totally new one together?
I would say – as much as you can – have your place packed and cleaned before the wedding. Stuff like winter clothes, books, pictures on the walls, decorative stuff, kitchen equipment you don’t use often can be totally boxed up a few weeks before the wedding.
Post # 5
Would it be possible to move your things before the wedding and just move yourself after? I.e. maybe 2 weeks prior move all of your stuff in and then have one or the other of you stay with a friend or family member those last 2 weeks? After I get home from a honeymoon the last thing I’d want to do is haul boxes!
Post # 6
He will be moving in with me after the wedding, when we get back from the honeymoon it will be our first time living together.
Those are good tips ejs4ye. I am very use to living alone I need to start mapping out how I’m going to make space for his clothes lol oh I can see this is going to be difficult. Duplicate stuff not so much but the clothing space .
Post # 7
Oh yeah . . . I’m moving into his place (bigger & nicer). I also need to carefully de-bachelorize the bachelor pad.
Post # 8
@Blissbound – it’s the same for us — first time living together after the honeymoon. I’m glad there’s someone else doing this!!
I think he has more clothes than me . . . but at least his place comes with storage space in the basement. We’re both ditching our garage sale kitchens and starting over with registry items (hopefully). The big issue (right now) is that we both work from home. It’s office space that’s going to be difficult. But I may be transitioning out of my freelancer life in the next few months.
Post # 9
My Fiance and I are moving into a brand new apartment after we get married. I can hardly wait! I’m so excited … and two shall become one!