TO @araneidae: RE – Etiquette on New Neighbours
Etiquette Snob here…
The established process is for those who already live in the Neighbourhood to WELCOME the Newcomers and take the first step in regards to social invites…
BUT sometimes timing is such, that the Newcomers have been out and about taking care of business getting settled so they’ve “run into” the long time residents already
In which case friendly conversation can open the door to social invites on either side “We should get together for coffee”
The standard fare, however is whomever makes the first deliberate move… it is considerate to come not empty handed (more so if you are the long established resident)… a Bouquet of Flowers, Plate of Cookies or Small Welcome Gift are all usually well received.
Because moving in and getting settled can take awhile (days to weeks) it is best when making the gesture that one is aware of time and inconveniencing the newcomer.
“I’d love to get together when you have more time… as a I am sure you are busy… but I wanted you to know how pleased we are to have you in the neighbourhood… and wanted to give you my name & number incase you needed any help or questions”.
Unless the newbie says this is a good time and insists you stay a spell… it is best to set up a time for coffee in the future.
If the meeting isn’t formal… and just casual (on the street)… then it is appropriate to introduce yourself as “Hi, I am Sue Jones… and I live in the green house across the street”
The newbie usually responds with an equally friendly greeting… and can also invite the passerby in for a cup of coffee / cold drink if the timing is convenient.
Initial meet ups, usually only last 10 or 15 minutes (long enough to enjoy the coffee / cold drink). If the neighbours click… then future meet ups can be planned… “stop by for coffee on ___ (specific date and time)”… OR “you should join us gals for our after dinner walk around the neighbourhood on Tuesday Nights” etc
And so it begins… if a friendship is formed, then social invites will naturally go back and forth…
Hope this helps,