(Closed) Moving in stress

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4824 posts
Honey bee

What specifically is he freaking out about?

See if you can address each worry/concern with a plan or a change. 

Maybe if you need more space until you move, you could rent a storage space. Or buy some organizer items to help keep thins in order and in place. 

I would also talk about roles and responsibilities. Bill paying, cooking, shopping etc. A lot of the scary stuff comes from the unknown so talk about everything.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

This may be one of those things that you will just have to let time pass and you two fall into a pattern and get used to the change emotional. It may help to let him have some quiet alone time at your place in the first few weeks while you do errands or go out with friends. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

OHHH yes, move in stress. Darlin, you’ve only got a few months and you’ll learn to work it out. The manfriend and I are saving for a house and living with my family in the meantime. That’s 2 people and a very large lizard tank in a 10×10 bedroom. 

What helps everything is to make storage anywhere. Our tiny 4′ wide 2′ deep closet seemed like it would fit anything until we got shelving from Ikea. Now it’s still a tight fit, and it get messy really fast- but it also feels like ours and I absolutely love it quite actually.

Chill out, you love him- he loves you. But things take getting used to. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Go through your stuff (both of you) and clean it out, give things away, recycle, or throw away things.  Always good to do occassionally to declutter.

From the perspective of one who moved into the place of the SO, you need to be more accommodating to make him feel like it’s his place as you’ve already decorated and arranged it to your taste.  If that means you need to chill on the OCD bits or give over more space than you think is 50/50, so be it. 

Try to find unique hiding spots for things to make more space – pack away seasonal clothes under the bed or above dressers, etc.

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