Moving in together

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If you don’t have any personal problem with moving in together before you are married, and can afford it, I say do it. 

Moving in with someone is both exciting and scary. It can be hard to live with someone, but you’ll need to get adjusted to that at some point, and it may make the transition easier for you once you do buy a house and get married. It may even make your relationship stronger.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

Logistically, moving into an apartment and buying a house 6-8 months later (depending on when you actually find a place and close) is such a pain. I lived in my apartment for a year before I bought my house, and I felt like I had just moved and was moving all over again. 

Could you buy sooner, even if it means living with your parents an extra month or two? 

Post # 4
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

When does his lease expire? How long would the home buying process be? 

Post # 5
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3238 posts
Sugar bee

cgomez2 :  When his roommate moves out, can you move in and continue his lease on a month to month basis while you get your home search underway?

Signing an entirely new lease, new deposits, etc would be a huge pain in the ass, especially when you are planning on staying only about 5 months. Seems like there has to be another way to save money, effort and energy.

Post # 6
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433 posts
Helper bee

I agree with all the PPs. Is there a way you can move in with him in his current apartment? I highly recommend a trial period of living together which is easy to get out of (ie. renting) before buying a home together which is much harder to get out of in the event things go sour (not that they will but it’s definitely good to get to know the person you will be living with before signing a 25 year or so mortgage). If not, I actually agree with your SO and would recommend a short lease of 6 months in a cheap apartment just to get to know what it’s like to live together and be out of your  family home (in your case).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, I’m all for living together before you marry or buy a house. Not that two months will give you much of a taste…I guess you’ll know if you can bear one another. I would not recommend signing a long lease if you plan to buy so quickly. Is there a way to move in without the commitment? I’m guessing you’re a US bee so things will be different there. Good luck though – exciting times!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Wanted to add, I just assumed you were moving into his current apartment and going to have your name added to the lease. I don’t personally think I would want to sign a new lease in a whole new apartment that close to buying a house, but I still am all for you moving in before you buy a house.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

cgomez2 :  I didn’t find any mention of whether or not you wanted to move in with your FH before you buy a house. I don’t think it’s necessarily good or bad either way, but it will be a big inconvenience for you to move in with him, then potentially move again in a few months. And it will be harder for you to save money. On the other hand, moving in with him will be very convenient for FH.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would personally never buy a house with someone without living with them first. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t buy a house with someone unless I was already married to them. Looks like your getting married next month, so you may not sign on a place until then anyhow.

If you are getting married next month, any way you and your husband could live with your parents while looking for a house? That would save and does sound like it’s a temporary situation. If the house falls through, you can get a apartment together if you need. Moving out of your parents place could be a lot easier than moving in and out of a apartment.

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