(Closed) Moving in together – advice??

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It takes awhile to get used to. I lived on my own, with no roommates for a couple years and still got spooked. Now I live with Fiance and we work opposite shifts and I definitely still get spooked. I have a hard time going to bed/falling asleep if he isn’t home yet.

 

What helped me was getting some pepper spray that I could keep with me and just making sure doors and windows are locked.

 

We’ll be moving into a house soon and I think I’ll have to get used to that too. At least in an apartment on the 2nd floor ,there’s really only one in and the neighbors hear everything. In a house, not so much!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  I think that its normal especially if you haven’t been on your own. I enjoy the times when he’s not here (because its rare that i’m home alone), but if he’s not here when I go to sleep I get scared lol

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

you will be fine. get used to the regular noises outside if near traffic, etc. and inside like clocks etc. maybe get an alarm thats what keeps me comfy when im home alone with the kids and fi is at work.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I used to be the same way, I hated being home alone for extended periods of time. Now, I enjoy having some downtime every now and then to just do what I want.

However, I still can’t sleep alone at night. When Fiance was working swing, I’d have to be exhausted to fall asleep before he got home. But even then, I’d still wake up in a panic when I heard the door. Once, he wasn’t supposed to be home for another hour, and I hadn’t heard the door. All of a sudden, he RIPPED the door open and I flew about five feet into the air. I laugh about it now, but that was seriously terrifying!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  I would be really freaked out too, except that my fiance has a cat. I know that if our cat doesn’t react to a crazy noise, then it must happen frequently. At the same time, when the cat runs to check something out I’m usually behind him

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@BruinBeeMPH:  Or you could get a taser… lol I’m not a fan of guns so I have a taser and feel so much safer when I know it’s in my pocket.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My fiance and I moved in together earlier this year, right after i turned 19, but he is a marine engineer so he is gone a lot (for months at a time) . I was nervous being alone at first, but that goes away after a little while. It wont take long at all and youll feel really comfortable. It is so great living together and being on my own, I hope you enjoy it too!! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  I still get nervous at night when Fiance is away on business. I bought some wasp spray which has a 20 foot spray distance. If a burglar breaks in, spray him from a distance. If it gets in his eyes (which it probably will!) he will need to go to the hospital to have his eyes flushed out and given medical attention! Also, the 20 foot spray gives you more of a chance to get away. HAHA paranoid much?! 

Sounds silly, but whenever I go to bed without Fiance home, I always make sure that can of wasp spray is nearby! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  I’m like veryone else here… I can’t sleep when my Fi isn’t with me and every little noise makes me think of terrible things! But like everything else in life you will adjust, I actually get even more spooked when I dog-sit for my parents now! I always have some sort of noise on (TV, Music, even just the dishwaher) when I’m home alone and I think that helps. I also found that when I very first moved in I kind of had this “nesting period” and made it a bit more of my own (even just scrubbing the cupboards does that for me) and I think that made me feel better. You will love it, and congrats on the big move!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  Totally normal.  I moved in with my bf, now Fiance 2 years ago and the first time he was gone over night I was totally freaked.  I had all the lights in the house on and my dog in the room with me.  I am 25, still scared of the dark too. 

I was in a sorority in college and I had to live in the sorority house for a year. Well stories were told and noises were heard, things were moved….yeah it was haunted. I was so scared to live there. I was rooming with 2 other girls…but the nights that they were out I slept with the light on…light big room light..not even a lamp!! One night I felt her, the ghost, sit on the edge of my bed…I was facing the wall I was so scared to move and make her mad. SO glad I dont live there anymore. Well now Im all freaked out….and my fiance is gone tonight…cool. :/

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