(Closed) Moving in together after marriage

posted 4 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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6937 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

My best friend and her husband didn’t live together until about 3 years after they got married. They’re both doctors and, at the time, were still finishing up school and couldn’t get residencies/internships in the same state. It was not ideal but they made it work. 

I will say though that once they were finally able to live together it was VERY difficult for them. They had both gotten used to a lot of independence and had a lot of trouble adjusting. 

ETA: I will say that before they got engaged though, they were not long distance (went to college together) and in fact lived together for 2 years. I couldn’t imagine being in a long distance relationship, marrying, and then STILL being unable to live together. How much time have you spent together already?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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akshali2000 :  I think you need to stop looking at your two’s income as separate and start looking at it as a household income. I understand wanting to contribute to the household financially, but you shouldn’t worry about finding a job before you move. You’re going to move anyway, right? So make it your job once you get there to find a job. It will fall into place.

My sister married a military man. She went to college and had a good job before he got transferred. They did the move, she got settled in and found a job. There’s no shame in that!

Fiance makes way more than I do. If he got a career opportunity elsewhere, I would move with him. No questions asked. (with the understanding that this is something we discussed and would be beneficial for us as a team)

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Are you open to living together before marriage? If so, I would start looking now.

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