(Closed) moving in together after wedding

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
7635 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@wishingonadream04:  We had an apartment organised but couldn’t move in for about a month. So for those few weeks we did house-sitting for various people, the bulk of that being a work colleague who was going on vacation.

Then when we finally moved in, we borrowed the bare essentials (mattress, fridge, table and a few chairs), some things we already had, and then gradually bought our own furniture and appliances over the next couple of months. It’s weird but I kind of liked the adventure of living in an empty apartment and gradually getting stuff.

But for most other people I know who have done that, most commonly the guy moves in a few weeks before the wedding and they gradually move stuff into the apartment or house, so they were fairly set once they started married life.

Post # 4
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@wishingonadream04:  We started looking a couple of months before the wedding (maybe we should have started a bit earlier). We both moved in together after the wedding. We also both moved most of our things in before the wedding, but neither of us lived here.

Similar to Paula, we bought a bed and a mattress before (I knew I’d need a place to sleep when we got back from our honeymoon) and we got everything else a little at a time. It was really fun to do that for us, because we could take our time, find good deals, and figure out what we really wanted and what we didn’t. I feel like our apartment has become a place driven by our needs, instead of by Ikea staging telling us what we should need, which has been very enjoyable for us. Good luck! 

Post # 6
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@wishingonadream04:  My DH and his sons moved into my house. Because of the calendar and his school schedule, they moved in over Memorial Day weekend last year. We got married 2 weeks later. The reason he moved in 2 weeks before, slight cheating, was to check out what his commute would be like before the school year finished (he’s a teacher and has a 45 minutes commute). We only a week for them to unpack boxes though because we had to fly to Ohio for the wedding. It was nice to have short preview of the invasion of space that would be permanent after returning from the honeymoon! 🙂

Post # 7
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We got married in the middle of July, so we got an apartment with a lease starting at the beginning of July. We started moving our stuff in before the wedding (things like all of our shower gifts and some furniture) but neither of us lived in the apartment until we got back from our honeymoon.

Post # 8
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve lived on my own since I was 18 (I’m 24 now). After I graduated college, I had a hard time finding a job, so once my now husband and I got engaged (July 2012), I decided to move back in with my mom.


My husband lived with his parents before we got married, and moved into an apartment about a month before we got married. We made the decision to get an apartment because we know that we would eventually be moving to another state so my husband could get a better job. We didn’t want to be “tied down” to a house.

Post # 9
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We didn’t live together before our wedding, so our timeline looked something like this:

Move in: February

Wedding: March

We planned on using all of Feb. to get situated so that moving and wedding wouldn’t collide (because that is a nightmare). What ended up happening due to necessary repairs, etc. we ended up having to move March 1 and have a wedding 2 weeks later. It was VERY hectic! I would suggest moving in completely one month before the wedding date to minimize the stress OR waiting until after your honeymoon to move in.

Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

DH lived at home with his parents. I was renting on my own.

After the wedding DH moved into my apartment where we lived out the rest of my lease together, then we rented a house together.

For your situation I would suggest that you rent a place together like maybe a month before the wedding, get all your stuff moved in there, and your groom can move in by himself. After the wedding everything will be settled and all you’ll need to do is move your self and a few small items.

Post # 11
8 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

We were in the same situation- each living at home with our families. We started looking for a place about 3 months before the wedding. We’re renting a basement suite and got the keys a few days before the end of July. My now husband moved in August 1st, and we got married on the 11th. During that time we set up all of our furniture and he moved his stuff over. The day before the wedding I moved all of my clothes and essentials over so that it would be live able when we retuned from our honeymoon. At first it was hard to agree on who should move in first (we were both quite ready to move out of our parents), but the place is closer to his job… And I had all of the wedding prep going on at my place. It worked out pretty well. 

Post # 12
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Our timeline…

Engaged June 2012

Began looking at houses August 2012

Found our house & closed end of September 2012

My then fiance moved in as did most of my stuff.

Our wedding was March 2013, then I officially moved in.


For us, it was ideal!  We hadn’t intended on getting a house that soon, but it worked out better because we were able to focus on moving & getting settled before the craziness of the wedding started in February.  Plus, after the wedding, I basically just had to move my clothes.  Another perk, by buying the house early, we knew exactly what we needed & wanted so our registry was a breeze!

Post # 13
1563 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My wedding is August 2 and we are actively apartment hunting as I type lol! Since we don’t live together yet, Fiance is moving in somewhere in July sometime and then I will move in after the wedding.

Post # 14
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re getting married in nine days and still don’t have a place. Originally, I was just going to move up to NYC, where my Fiance lives, because there are more job opportunities. I’ve had a few phone interviews with schools there.

But now, there are a ton of jobs opening up here in FL! And my Fiance is willing to move down here if I get a job here. So…. I don’t know! If I get a job offer soon, it will be easier to decide, but the schools here are leaving the applications open until right before the wedding! Arghh!! It’s really frustrating to not have a plan set up.

Post # 15
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I started casually looking for an apartment about 6 months out from the wedding, just to get a feel for what was out there.  Then around 3 months out  we started seriously looking for a place.  We didn’t get one until like 3 weeks before the wedding. It took longer than we thought!  I moved in first and slowly moved in furniture. Then my husband moved in after.

Post # 16
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We got engaged in December 2011 and set the wedding date for July 2012.

Began looking for apartments to rent immediately.  Found one in March 2012 and I alone moved in.  We purchased a few appliances.

In May 2012 we found a great house deal, purchased quickly and I moved from the apartment to the house in June 2012 with the new appliances.  Purchased bed and additional large necessities in the last 3 weeks before the wedding (that was hectic)!.  

Hubby moved in right after our honeymoon ended in August 2012.


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