- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Hi Bees, I think I need to start my own little shut it up pact with myself. A few weeks ago my SO for the first time offered me to move into his condo. We’ve been dating about 5 months and live about an hour apart and we both miss each other so much and want to see each other every day. I’m also starting grad school soon and will be balancing school and work. We want to live together so we will have more time together even if it’s just falling asleep next to each other and also because it will allow me to cut back my hours at work and focus on school so I can finish my degree faster. The only thing in the way is that I have 3 pets! 1 dog and 2 cats. My SO’s condo is definitely too small for all 3 pets and me to move in, plus one of my cats is NOT friendly and SO and him do not get along very well. He wants me to find a home for my kitty before we plan to move in together. We’ve discussed it and the only 2 people I would allow to temporarily take my cat (2-3 years until I graduate and we can get a bigger place) is my mom and sister. However, I am not confident either will take him becauseof his mean temperment. As much as I love my SO I would never give him up to a stranger or the shelter so it worries me that this might become a road block in our relationship moving forward.
Ever since he mentioned me moving in with him I’ve become so focused on wanting it to work out and worried that it won’t. I sometimes drop hints about it… like talk about how I can’t wait to wake up next to him every day. I just don’t want to become “that” person always trying to bring it up. So I’ve decided I’m going to shut it up for a full month. March 5-April 4. Maybe in that time span he will realize he misses me so much and get over the issue with the cat (thinking positive!) Anyone else ever have a similar issue bringing up something in the relationship (not engagement)?