(Closed) Moving in with condition of engagement?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
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2294 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I moved in with my bf after dating for about 2 years, but it was my idea. We were together all of the time anyways, so we did what I guess you could call a “trial run”. We rented for a year and started talking marriage. Originally I didn’t want to buy a house with him until I had a ring on my finger, but apparently our landlord had other plans, b/c she was evicting us (long long story) right around the time that home buyer tax break was coming to an end. BF and I jumped at the chance and bought a house. 5 months later he proposed, on my birthday. We’ve been together over 4 years total (married for almost 3 months)

I never really felt the pressure to hurry up and be more than a live-in gf, but in our case it just worked out. Had the whole eviction/house buying thing not happened, we might still only be talking marriage.

Post # 37
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1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I advise all my GF’s NOT to move in with a guy without the rock and a date. Reason being is that yeah, I moved in and basically made it clear we’d need to get married in order for me to stay and he had talked marriage before. I didn’t set a deadline, because I know that’s usually useless, plus I didn’t want to be pressuring him knowing the kind of spontaneous fellow he is. I ended up waiting quite a while….and not wanting to be the pushing gf, I got stuck in that waiting pattern…crying my eyes out everytime I ‘thought’ he was about to propose and it didn’t happen. It finally did, and I always knew it would but I’d tell my friends to save themselves the stress and get the rock first. That’s just my ‘if I knew then what I know now” life experience. I’m afraid you will have to be patient. He knows what you want and the point is that you guys discussed it before moving in….that’s the key. So many girls move in without talk of marriage..and end up with a guy who has no intentions of the sort. I hope you get your ring soon.

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