(Closed) Moving in with inlaws to save money for a house

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

After I had to move back home after college my mother said that 2 women can not exist peacefully under the same roof.  She was right. 

Post # 33
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would never be able to live with my IL’s. It would probably lead to divorce!

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When my husband’s sister got married 4 years ago, they moved in with her parents, and stayed for about a year and a half. I know there were a lot of issues between her husband and her parents (particularly her Dad) but it was all sort of passive-agressive, and nothing was ever said. About 18 months later, they moved out and got their own apartment, and they were SO HAPPY – it was like night and day. Sadly, this didn’t last, and they had some financial issues and about a year later, they moved in with HIS parents. Today, they still live with his parents, and my sister-in-law has told me that her husband does not want to leave, ever, because he likes living with his parents, and getting to spend all of their money on fun things (both just got new cars, hockey season tickets, etc). He would also like to start TTC, because he thinks that his father, who is disabled, will be able and willing to watch the baby all day. Needless to say, my sister-in-law isn’t really thrilled with this situation, but since neither of them has a lot of experience in living on their own, nothing seems to change. I’m not suggesting that your situation will end up like this, just wanted to put this out there as a cautionary tale of what can happen in these sorts of situations – I would NEVER go into something like this without a firm (and not too far in the future) end date and exit plan!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@SaraP2012:  We did it. It was a very stressful time, because they are used to their family doing things a certain way, and it may be different than yours and that can get complicated. We had little to no privacy even though we had a whole floor to ourselves. They wanted us to eat dinner with them every night even thuogh before going into it we all tried to set boundaries. We like to have date nights- which turned into family nights. I mean no rent- so don’t you dare complain, but the first 1/3 of our marriage I felt more of a roommate to my husband than his wife. And she tried to be my “mom.” I have a mom. You’re my mother-in-law, I’m not homeless!

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