Post # 1
I’m so excited, my SO and I are moving in together in about 3 weeks. We found a really nice 2 bed, 1 1/2 bath townhouse that is in a great neighborhood for rent we can actually afford! Everything’s new – the carpets, the tile in the kitchen and bathrooms. AND there’s a walk-in closet, and a washer/dryer is included!
So it’s pretty much the perfect place.
We went to look at it and signed the lease on the spot. It’s so exciting to actually be planning to live together. We were trying to get approved for a mortgage, and we need to build our credit up some more, and I have to pay some credit cards, so this will allow us to do that in the next year or so. Plus we get to live together while doing it, and we are so ready for that next step!
This is my first time ever living with a guy who is not my brother haha. It’s going to be an adjustment, but I just can’t wait!
Any tips from you Bees on first moving in together? I’m doing the budget, and handling paying the bills because he’s not so good at organization and I feel more comfortable taking care of that part. What about chores? He’s never lived away from home before, this is going to be an adjustment period (but he’s up for it!).
Post # 3
I think the most important thing it to be ready to need some adjustment time. No matter how much or how little time you have spent together beforehand, moving in together is super different. There could be more fights or less, issues over chores or none at all, but you both need time to process the move. And that’s totally fine.
Post # 4
@futuremrsfitz18: <– Exactly this. It is a super exciting time but there are a lot of adjustments to be made once you get in. I found moving in with my SO was way more stressful/anxiety ridden than I ever expected… we never had any issues (fights, disagreements etc) but it was just an adjustment. It’s great to have someone in charge of the bills etc (I do all of ours) and we usually split the house stuff depending on who’s home etc. I do laundry and the cleaning, he does the cooking and usually the grocery shopping… it’s a good deal for me!
Congrats, it sounds like a great place! 🙂 🙂 (and despite the adjustments, living with your other half is amazing… I love it!)
Post # 5
The one thing I always say is to always make time for each other. Once you move in together you forget that you still have to have date nights or do special things together. Just because you live together doesnt mean you will spend more time together. My fiance and I totally forgot to spend quality time together when we moved in and we started fighting all the time. Watching TV together or sitting in the same room doesnt qualify as quality time. You have to still make each other feel special after the ‘honeymoon’ phase is over.
Post # 6
oh yes! there will be an adjustment period. Try not to get upset – just remind yourself that everything will fall into place in a little while.
If you do have issues make sure to bring it up with SO. They are not mind readers – communication is incredibly important during a time of transition.
(this from a woman who had a meltdown after moving in with FI because he packed up some of my stuff without telling me lol)
Post # 7
So exciting! I am very happy for you – it is such a happy thing 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! It’s so exciting.
And great news, my current LL is letting me out of my lease 1 month early! So I’m just leaving the end of this month and moving into the new place. So happy!