Post # 1
ok lets get serious,
this is what is new in my life, i have not disclosed this infomation before but Fiance is older than me and has been divorced previously, he has two children, anyway i beleived he was well and truely over his ex wife, that is until we stated looking at houses…
the house next door to his exwife and kids has cone up for sale, he is proposing we buy it and live next to them so he will get to see his children lots, i dont see why we need to live NEXT DOOR for this to happen though, even the same suberb is close enough..
not only that but if we move there Fiance says he wants too have dinner over at there place on weeknights to catch up with what the kids did at school that day and bond with them,
i understand him trying to be closer to the kids, but seriously every weeknight! ill be eating alone 🙁 so much for newly weds cooking together ect..
what is going on!
Post # 3
not to mention his ex wife is bat sh*i crazy and is not excactly fond of me!
Post # 4
That is really weird… Does he have a good relationship with the ex??? Do you????????????? Are you friends?
I hope next thing won’t be: “let’s have a bbq together”…
Post # 5
That would be a no for me. I’m all for exes getting along for the sake of the kids, but this is too close for comfort!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
He is saying he wants to go over there every weeknight *alone*?? That sucks.. I can see moving next door if you have a good relationship with the kids and the ex, but if she hates you that is another thing. Have you told him how uncomfortable you are with all of it?
Post # 7
Um yeah, I would not be ok with this. I think it’s weird to start a new marriage right next door to the ex-wife. It sounds like he wants two wives!
Post # 8
Noooooooo Wayyyyyyy. There is no way I’d be comfortable with that. Thats great he wants to be an active father figure for them but like you said, that can be done living a short distance away. You have every right to not be comfortable with that and hopefully you can voice that to him and he will understands.
Post # 9
Him playing house over there every weeknight sounds like too much for me to handle. Why can’t the kids come to your place on some weeknights just for dinner?
Post # 10
Nope..UH-uh…No way! I would not be ok with this. This has disaster written all over it!!!
Post # 11
i would put my foot down here. no way. why would he even consider putting you in that position. it’s not like bumping into her at the grocery store. it’s your every day life, your home. he is crazy to suggest such a thing.
Post # 12
Someone even suggesting that to me would be enough for me to leave him. Shows who he is and his lack of consideration for you. Crazy is an understatement.
Post # 13
Wait a minute your other posts say you are both in your 20’s, struggling with money, you regret spending $2300 on a ring because it pretty much wiped you out and now 2 weeks later you’re buying a house despite being broke and still in school? And this after many posts about how you’re not even in love with him, think marriage is stifling etc..
I feel like I’m being led down the garden path and you post just to get reactions. Nothing you write is consistant. Sorry if I seem harsh but women here seem to offer genuine concern and suggestion/advice to others and I feel like we’re being played. If thats not the case, I apologize, but anyone can read your previous posts and see why Im wondering.
Post # 14
yeah MrsKennedytoBe i think he kindof does want too wives..!
Post # 15
Perhaps you should ask him how he will feel when his Ex wife moves in a new boyfriend and he is having dinner with him too?? I’m just saying!! Or perhaps he could have Dinner with you everynight!!
Post # 16
That sounds like Hell to me. I think it’s great that he wants to see his children, but a couple minute drive is perfectly acceptable. You guys need your own space…being able to sit in your own backyard without being harrassed would be lovely. How about having the kids over a couple nights a week for dinner and game night instead of going over there? That way you can build a relationship with the children too?