Post # 1
Hello fellow bees!!!
I need some wedding bee adivce! My fiance’ and I are getting married next month at his grandparents house. His grandparents house is over looking a valley and in a remote area. Its just GORGEOUS! We are having our ceremony in the front of the house over looking the valley and reception in the backyard.
MY DILEMMA is we are doing everything for the wedding ourselves. We are expecting about 70 guest. I need advice on possibly having NO CHAIRS for the ceremony. Only having guest stand. Because when the ceremony is over we would have to have guest move there OWN chairs to the reception area. I think that is tacky to ask guest to move there own chairs. MY opinion. My mom thinks we should have chairs for the ceremony and have guest move there own chairs. After the ceremony our photographer wants guest to move asap to the reception so she can take pictures in the ceremony space. The other problem with guest moving there own chairs is then we can not put the number of chairs at each table. Im afraid some tables will have a certain click, or more than the table allows and we will haveto ask guest to move.
Opinions are greatly apprecitated thank you for the help!
Post # 3
How long is your ceremony? If you want them to stand for say 15 to 20 minutes no big deal… any longer than that and I would have chairs. Also think of your grandparents and older realitves and friends, how long are they going to be able to stand?
Post # 4
I would have chairs for the ceremony. You can use the same chairs as you plan to use for the reception. Most often people are more than willing to help, they just need to know what you would like them to do.
Most wedding chairs are stackable so they can carry a few at a time.
If your chairs are not stackable, but are foldable, the guys can usually carry 4 at a time, so if you have 4 guys it will only take them 4 or 5 trips each.
Post # 5
While I might not mind standing for a very brief ceremony, I know my grandma, who would arrive 10 minutes early, would NOT be able to stand for very long. Nor would my very pregnant friend, or FI’s friend with the broken leg.
It would be best to have a chair for every butt, and maybe hire someone to move the chairs, or designate a strapping young cousin or so to stack them up and move them. In general, it’s considered rude to ask your guests to work your wedding.
Post # 6
Unless we opt for a church ceremony we’re going to have to ask people to move the chairs, I’m going with folding either way so they should be easier to carry and someone fit and able can easily carry two so they can help with people that can’t. I’m only planning on 40 people or so though.
ETA: I know another bee hired a couple of high school kids to move them because the caterer was charging a fortune, paid maybe $50 per kid, so that’s another option.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Please have chairs for the ceremony. Having had to stand at a wedding before, I would never submit a guest to this- starts to get a little uncomfortable in heels, etc.
Are you having a caterer or other wait staff, who could move the chairs for you?
Post # 8
We looked at a venue that did this, and they said it always worked out fine. They said to have the grooms men move the chairs of those who cannot move them (grandparents, etc). I’d rather move my chair then stand for a ceremony.
Post # 9
@MrsNerdy: Ditto, I’d rather move my chair. Light-weight and/or folding chairs would be appreciated, don’t want to lug some super awkward heavy thing if possible.
Post # 10
We tossed the idea of moving 100 chairs from ceremony to reception space around and had recruited six males (brother, 2 nephews, 3 cousins) to do the job which would have taken about 10-15 minutes following the ceremony.
This wasn’t ideal, but it would allow us to have “pretty” chairs for both ceremony and reception.
We ended up not needing to execute the idea b/c we are now buying double the number of chair covers and the venue is trading us open bar (beer and wine) for those chair covers…but, we weren’t adverse to moving the chairs, and the six guys we talked to were more than willing.
I’m not a fan of standing ceremonies even if they are short. Our ceremony is 15-20 minutes, but most guests will be there 15-20 minutes early..so that’s 30-40 minutes of standing…yuck.
Post # 11
The ceremony is only going to be 15-20 minutes. We plan on at least having a few rows of chairs for family member and guest that can not stand.