Post # 1
This may have been asked a million times, so apologies in advance. I’m getting married in a month and a half and I would ideally love to make my old last name my new middle name and take my fiance’s last name when we get married. I’ve heard from friends who have gotten married that it’s an insanely complicated process, and I’m not sure I understand why it’s so hard.
Can anyone enlighten me? If you have done it how did you go about it? Just to give you a background I’m from maryland, getting married in virginia. Not sure if this varies state by state etc.
Post # 3
Not sure how it vares from state to state either but in MA, it was a breeze. When we filled out the marriage licence, you just put what you want your new name to be. You can basically make up anything if you wanted.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I don’t know why it’d be harder than any other name change. I kept my middle name but also added my maiden name as a middle name – so I have two now It’s a pain in the ass because you have to change your name with EVERYBODY (credit cards, mortgage, all your bills, work, SS, driver’s license, bank, all your insurances, paypal, etc etc etc)… but you’d have to do that regardless of whether you just changed your last name. I don’t think it should matter if you also change your middle name or not?
Post # 5
It’s an annoying process. If you google it there’s a wikkhow tnat gives you the steps.
I started with my Social security card then would move on to drivers license, passport, insurance and bank/credit cards.
BUT because we are traveling out of the country a few times this spring I’ve decided to hold off on changing my DL and PP. I wasn’t 100% confident in my abilities to have them changed in time for travels.
Start at the social security offices. You’ll need your marriage certificate, SSC and likely another form of identification (It’s all on their website).
Pit is a pain in the ass but not impossible.
Post # 6
@teaqueen2014: I live in VA but got legally married in Vegas. The actual wedding certificate did not ask what I wanted my name to be. Once I got home and went to the SS office, that’s when I made the change. There was no issue, just wrote it out on the form and it was done.
It was a pain changing everything else, but no because I moved my maiden to the middle. Just because it was a lot of phone calls, office visits, faxing documents.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I did exactly what you did-It’s not complicated, just annoying. You’ll need a copy of your marriage license from the court house- one with a seal. (When I first went to MVA, I only had what my minister provided at the wedding, which wasn’t enough- I needed the state license. Yeah, TWO trips to MVA!)
First step- go to social security and get a new ID card (you’ll have the same SS number.) Then, go to MVA for a new driver’s license. Then, start with your other changes- passport, credit cards, insurance, frequent flyer, etc.
Some places will allow you to do changes over the phone (AirTran, for example), while Southwest made me fax in a copy of the marriage license. So the amount of work needed will vary on the company.
I would advise getting two or three copies of your license. For my passport, I believe they wanted an original, so it helped to still have another one I could copy/do other updates with while waiting for that one back.
Post # 8
@teaqueen2014: We live in Virginia and it wasn’t hard at all. My maiden name is now my middle name. People overcomplicate it. Social security, then DMV, once you get those in the mail you just call people and drop by your bank.
Post # 9
A name change requires a visit to the Social Security office. Bring your marriage license and a form you can fill out ahead of time from the SSN website.. Block out enough time because you will have to wait and go there prepared. The process is not aannoying.
Once you get your new SSan card you can update your license and other official and financial things.
Post # 10
@teaqueen2014: I got married in Mich, but was living in northern va when i had to do the name change.
I went to the soc. security office in Alexandria, VA and simply told them i was going to drop my middle name for my maiden name, and gave them the marriage cert. to prove my new last name.
It was a TOTALLY easy process, i wayyy overthought it– once i got my new social security card, i took that to the DMV in fairfax and was good to go!
Post # 11
I got married in DC and live in Virginia. I did exactly this, and my legal name is now (First – Maiden – DH’s Last Name). It was insanely easy and I had zero trouble. You do it at social security, and no one batted an eye. It took 10 minutes and all I needed was my marriage license.
Post # 12
@teaqueen2014: I added my maiden name to my middle name. For me, it was the same as any name change. I think any name change is complicated and annoying!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@CurlyCue: Hmmm. What if you live out of the country? I may not be traveling home for quite some time. 🙁
Post # 14
As long as you get at least several notorized copies of your marriage certificate from the court, it’s not hard. For me, the most trouble came because my new SS card got sent back and now I have to apply for a new one rather than a changed one (bigger hassle), and in getting the passport changed since it is rather expensive. Everything else was a breeze.
Here’s a link that I found really helpful: http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/planning-a-wedding/articles/name-change-101.aspx
Post # 15
@prahajess: I didn’t look into a mail in option because I was able to go in person. I would suggest you make this priority number one when you return. Or use google to visit the SSA website and give them a call to ask your question.
Post # 16
Thank you all for your reply! I’m motivated to continue with my plan to move my maiden name to my middle and take the new last name. Woohoo!! (not looking forward to the annoying part though lol)