(Closed) Moving the Date for FMIL

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
250 posts
Helper bee

oh honey, let me just give you some sound advice.


The opinions and suggestions come out of the woodwork.  I have NEVER been as “amazed” with things being said or not being done as I have the last 18 months during the wedding planning with my daughter.


Trust me, DO WHAT YOU WANT, DO WHAT MAKES YOU and FIANCE HAPPY~ and just remember this, “It is not all the little Battles you win, it is winning the war in the end”

Let some things be “won” by the parents/inlaws and SAVE THE BIGGIES for yourself to have victory.  Weigh out the important things and stick to your guns!

Post # 4
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

just keep in mind during the whole wedding planning is that you cant please everyone!

I had just sent our save the dates and my aunty asked if we could change the date? i was like.. hmm 100 of those things went out… umm no. She was ok about it. Sometimes people dont think. I dont think your being unreasonable…Just say you have changed it soo many times already and that you just really want to get married and thats the best week with budgets and other people. Hang in there.

p.s welcome to the hive!

Post # 5
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree with the other ladies.  You can’t please everyone no matter what you do. As long as it works for you and your Fiance that’s all that matters. When the wedding is over it’s just the two of you. Good Luck 😉

Post # 6
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

@ccranetobe: LOL @ your auntie!!  “Can you change the date” LOL after she received a STD.  That is just cracking me up!!

@rcool487: There will always be something that people want you to change.  You have to decide whether or not it’s that important to you to keep your decision, or if their requests really do make sense.  It sounds like in this case you should stick to your decision.  I can come up with a reason for you to move your date no matter what date you pick, they’re just being…picky, LOL.

Post # 7
1565 posts
Bumble bee

We had to move our date around a lot for family (mostly mine). They had legit reasons for certain seasons and weeks not working for someone – jobs, school, health, etc. Future Mother-In-Law was unhappy with our date because of Labor Day traffic. We decided that wasn’t a good reason for us to move the wedding, so we stood our ground there. So I would say, it’s good to be flexible if someone has a good reason for their request, but if doesn’t make sense to you and Fiance, then stand your ground.

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