Moving to a different city to be with my boyfriend…posted 8 months ago in Relationships
- 8 months ago
- Wedding: November 2016
pussinboots07 : I agree 100%! I think me refusing to move with my SO, now-D.H., set a precedent in our relationship that my career matters too (I’m also the breadwinner, though I was in grad school/he was working at the time of the proposed move). Also completely agree that if the city OP’s SO lives in is somewhere she would want to live absent the SO, assuming the worst, it would mitigate some of the risk (assuming OP gets her own place), though I wouldn’t personally make the move under the circumstances the OP provided.
ETA: Two of my close friends made decisions to move with SOs. One is married to that SO, but has moved 5 times, always for his job. Right before the most recent move, she had her dream job and dream house in the place she wanted to raise their future children, and he accepted the job anyway with her strong objections. She set the precedent early on that his career came first. My other friend has moved twice now with her SO and they are not engaged, nor does engagement/marriage appear anywhere on the horizon despite her believing moving to him to end their LDR would be a natural step toward marriage. Just throwing out these examples.