(Closed) Moving to a new city.

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My SO & I moved from Atlanta, GA to a tiny town in rural N. CA after I graduated college. It wasn’t a totally new place, we went for a weekend visit before we made our decision & he has alot of old friends that live there, but no family & none of my friends are anywhere nearby. Neither of us had jobs or even a house lined up (we tried but no-one would take us seriously from across the country). The move itself was fun & exciting although we were a bit nervous as we had never lived together before. He wasn’t able to find a regular job but has made more than enough doing random jobs for friends, and I found a great job a month after the move. We haven’t really had any issues come up, aside from having to spend what we save on obligatory annual trips back home to see the family. That’s really my only complaint, I miss my family alot but at the same time I have a huge family & would feel pulled in every corner of GA around the holidays so it’s nice not to have to worry about 15 different holiday parties. 

I really enjoy it being just the two of us now & I feel like it has made our relationship alot stronger, having to deal with all the craziness that moving across country entails. We both always thought we had wanted to live in the city, but we’re both from small country towns. Once we made the move we fell back in love with the small town feel & I don’t ever see us voluntarily leaving it behind. Heck, we were just in the city for a few nights for a birthday party & I have never been so happy to be back at home in my tiny country town!

It’s a crazy and heart-wrenching journey to be making, full of confusion & uncertainty- but it is the most rewarding thing we have done together…. I wish you the best in trying to make that decision!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

We’ve been in Columbus for our entire lives and have everything here, but in 3 weeks we will be heading to Boise for an interview for him.  We’ve only seen it in pictures but I’m VERY excited about shaking things up a bit.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

That sounds exciting!! Ive always wanted to do that. 

Fi and I recently moved to a new area, but its no where near as ambitious.  Its about an hour away from where we were in the NW part of the city.  It’s not a big geographic difference but its still like no mans land to me.  We were really excited to move.  To be in a new/better part.  Most of our friends who purchased did so right where they grew up.  This is such an ecclectic town.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband and I moved together to a new city after college.  We both grew up within 45 minutes of each other, and lived in the area our whole lives.  We are about 3 hours away from our family.  I love where we live and we both have zero desire to return to our hometowns.  In fact, if we moved again, we would move farther away (probably Miami)

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@allyfally:  Would it be possible just to move to the suburbs or a small town close to the city? Like vs. moving across the country. I live in a big city right now but have lived around it in various smaller towns my whole life. Basically we could go into the city if we wanted to drive anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour, depending on where we lived at the time (I moved around a lot when I was a kid).

I’d suggest securing jobs before you move anywhere. It would really suck to pick a town, move, and then have to commute back into the city or be jobless for any length of time. Long commutes SUCK.

Also realize there are pros and cons to small town living or even suburbia. You need to rely on neighbors more. Gossip gets around quicker. When your kids grow older they might be so bored w. the small town life that they get up to no good. You’ll need to go into the bigger city for shopping trips etc. etc. Gas will cost more. You’ll likely be even more reliant on your car than you are now, unless you live close to the main street in the smaller town. North America is a car culture. If you want to go without a car, move to a big city in Europe with established public transportation.

I guess in a nutshell, it’s totally doable, but you need to plan this properly. My bf and I are planning on moving to a new country in the next 5-10 years. Right now we both have great jobs where we are now, but we hate the cold Canadian winters. We might either move to the States or Europe (we both have EU citizenships), but we’re not sure yet.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i moved from my hometown 2000 miles to attend university, then i moved from one coast to the complete other (basically NY to LA), and now i’m moving from North America to Europe! All of these moves (except the first) have been with my SO. i’m super excited, and love travelling, so moving doesn’t stress me any!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We did this and had a great time.  We moved 20 hours away from our family in South Carolina up to Minnesota for a year and it was a great experience.  Then we moved to the Charlotte metro which was new for us as well but closer to family (which is nice since we had a baby in July).

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We moved from small town USA to a city, and didn’t like it (though you could walk or take the bus which was convenient!) for the crime and parking issues. We moved to a suburb which was great, could walk everywhere, free parking!, much safer, and finally to another suburb with good schools.

I really wanted to find a small town with a downtown where I could walk places but it just wasn’t feasible. I do like it here much better but I miss here I used to live and having family nearby.

Do what makes you happy! Just do your research first 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve never moved with anyone else but, not counting going away to college, I’ve moved twice by myself for jobs.  It was worth it both times….especially the last move because this is where I met my Fiance. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@allyfally:  That kinda reminds me of Boston sorta.  People don’t necessarily bike everywhere, but it’s such a cute town/city. 

I have lived in NY all my life.  My Fiance and I are moving to SC alone, without any friends or family there (well he has friends), in about 6 weeks. 

It’s a huge move.  But, we’re both tired of NY.  And both ready for the change. It just sucks that it’s going to be 12-14 hours of a drive away.  Or a 2-hour flight (expensive). 

3-4 hours away definitely isn’t a big deal.  You can do that in 1 day back and forth or in a weekend to go see family/friends! 

Keep us posted on your journey! 🙂

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@allyfally:  yes Darling Husband and I just up and moved 6 months after getting married, and 9 months after buying our first home there LOL But, it ended up being an amazing thing for us. However, we moved from a smaller town to chicago 😉 so opposite of you. We moved away from all of our family. Sometimes it tough but honestly, its not such a bad thing. Yes, we want to have a family but I feel that the diversity and experiences here would be good for our kids. my family isnt a great example anyway. 

within 1.7 years we have purchased a home here both got amazing jobs and making money off our first home where we moved from. Things are good and I dont regret it at all. My life has completely changed though. Honestly. Are you ready for that??? I needed it actually. what towns are youthinking of? I am very familiar with kentucky (I grew up around Newburgh/Evansville Indiana and Southern Illinois)

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