(Closed) Moving to a new state/city: Advice? How did you handle it?

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Post # 3
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m subscribing cause I might be moving this summer – if I can only get into graduate school ๐Ÿ™‚ – and while I have moved away from my family to go to undergrad and currently live out of city, I’ve never moved out of state and have been within 2 hours ๐Ÿ™ So I hope you get some good advice!

Post # 4
104 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve relocated a few times to new cities where I didn’t know a soul! I didn’t really look at it as a stressful, scary situation. But as something fun and exciting. The best part of your situation is you’ll have your SO with you so you can experience new places and things together.  I met new people through work and school when I moved and you just put yourself out there.  Let people know you just moved there and always ask for recommendations for places from people.  Good luck!!

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Darling Husband and I moved to London after getting married for his job. 

I still haven’t found work and neither of us knew anyone here.

I suggest the following:

1) Network like crazy before you move. Ask people if they have a friend of a friend (of a friend) etc who lives in the area and go on “friend dates”

2) Get involved in a group/hobby you enjoy. I recently joined a horseback riding/social club here in London and have met several lovely women through it.

3) If you are working, go out for happy hours, etc with your co-workers. 

Since you are the “new one” in the area you will have to do the reaching out. I was talking to a friend a few nights ago who recently moved and she said you have to reach out 3 times (on avg) before getting a reach out back.

She also recommended a book called MWF seeking BFF about a newly married woman moving to a new city for her husband and having to find new friends (maybe a new BFF). I just downloaded it for my kindle and will read it as well.

Also, stay in touch with your friends at home. Schedule phone dates to keep in touch, it is so nice to hear a familiar voice when you are feeling lonely and far away.


There will be days when you feel horribly alone, but they will pass. It’s hard to be the “new kid” in a new town, but it’s not impossible. 

Hope that helps.

Post # 6
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I haven’t personally moved but Fiance has.

He moved from NY (on the CT border) to Las Vegas for work while I was pregnant. His friend’s father knew a guy who owned a business out there that was looking for new guys to hire. So Fiance and his friend drove out with a car full of stuff and that was it. They found an apartment before moving, which they regret, because they weren’t able to comparison shop. Of course they had no where to stay because they didn’t know anyone so it was necessary. They only had eachother and didn’t really like their coworkers but they found other friends. The lived in an apartment so they started talking with their older downstairs neighbor who mentioned that he had kids their age. So the next time his kids came over Fiance and his friends went and started talking to them and those were their new friends! They also made friends with some Mormom missionaries who knocked on their door, lol. Unfortunately, the business went bankrupt about 4 months into it so he only stayed there about 5/6 months. He then flew into Boston and I picked him up while I was in labor, but that’s a whole other post!

After that he settled into New Husband (on the border of Mass) with me. We lived with my parents for about 6 months and then found our own place. He talks to the people he works with but he doesn’t really go out with anyone. He works third shift so it is hard to make friends with anyone else because he’s either sleeing or working. We’re surrounded by my family here so at least we have that interaction.

You’ll have eachother and his family to keep busy for awhile. You can also try volunteering or join a book club and that will help you meet people. You could also start attending a church if that’s something you’re into. I’m not sure of your industry but the job market in Mass is pretty much the same as NY right now. If you don’t mind me asking – what area of Mass are you looking to move to (Boston, Northeast, West, CT/RI border)? I have family all over Mass so I might be able to give you a better idea of the area. You can also PM if you’d like.

Post # 7
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

I moved from Massachusetts to Hawaii, back to Massachusetts, then to Florida (3 different cities in Florida) in the past 5 years.  So I’ve moved around A LOT.  I usually join a gym and take a few group classes and meet people that way.  I have a dog, and I always meet nice people at the dog park.  So if you have any hobbies, find a group with the same interests and meet people that way. 

What part of MA are you moving to?  I’m from Boston, so I’m bias, but I think it’s awesome there. ๐Ÿ™‚

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