Moving to another state and working from home…advice!!

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Darling Husband used to telecommute. He always just worked from our house, but he’s not the type to get bored at home. Then his company ended telecommuting for all its remote employees. I hope you get to enjoy this nice position for as long as you can. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hey, I work from home, and live in Dallas, until May anyway lol. So it is hard. I’m not going to lie. Fi also works from home and seems to be better at it then I am. I’m an introvert, but I still like going into the office.

I get so bored being home all day. Unfortunately, I don’t have the option of working from home at Starbucks or he Library. It would be cool to have a change of pace. I ended up missing coworkwrs enough that I gave up working from home and returned to the office. 

You know, they say working from home doesn’t effect your career, but I doubt that. After returning to the office, I got tapped to work on several different special projects. I never got tapped when working from home.

Alas, with the wedding coming up, im back at home. This way I can use the time I would otherwise be commuting for wedding stuff, or just more time with Fiance.

Good luck and welcome to Dallas!

Post # 4
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Newbee

appleblossom217 :  My dream is to work from home. No traffic, gas stops, dressing up. I haven’t worked from home yet but I would just go out and meet people randomly. Go to sporting events, sign up for a sports league, find a blog with other young professionals who work from home and meet up at a coffee shop. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I am also a remote employee! I spent a few years working at company headquarters and then life brought me to a different state. A few things that helped for me: 1) I made sure I had a separate room for an office. I knew I needed a space where I felt like I was in “work mode” versus “home mode”. If I had to work from the kitchen or living room, I knew I wouldn’t be in the right mindset. 2) I got a cat. I’m an introvert, so for the most part, it doesn’t bother me to be by myself. In fact, it’s actually made me more productive because I no longer have to work in an open office where I can’t control the temperature and noise. However, I did find myself getting a bit lonely, so I got a friend. 3) I make sure I get outside at least once a day. This might be going to the gym downstairs, running to the grocery store etc….But, after a particularly intense time at work, where I didn’t leave my apartment for 5 days, I vowed to never do that again. So, I make it a point to leave and go somewhere. I personally do not tend to work outside of my apartment, since I don’t like the uncertainty of what the internet connection will be like. I also really love having two monitors when I work.

Overall, working remote has been a great way to keep a job I love, while also being with the person I love. I have found it more difficult to make new friends though, since I don’t have an office to make those easy connections. I would suggest finding a club or volunteering opportunity if you don’t already know people in Dallas. Good luck! Remote work isn’t for everyone, but it can be a great way to enjoy more flexibility.

Edit to add: I did not find this detrimental to my career path, but I can see how that could happen. I actually got a promotion while working remote. I make sure to have all my meetings as video calls, so that way people are less likely to ignore or forget about me 🙂 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

appleblossom217 :  I work from home, but I’m working with people all day long via chat, email, or phone so it doesn’t feel like I’m missing out on interaction. Video meetings help me feel even more connected but a lot of colleagues aren’t as enthusiastic about video as I am. One guy said “I have to put pants on for that.” I told him no you don’t, just a shirt. laughing 

If it’s all data entry or coding or something where you’re not working with others, I could see feeling isolated. Are your team mates also remote or are most of them in an office? Either way, you could set up a weekly virtual lunch date where you and some team mates dial into a conference line and chat while eating lunch. People in the office could do it from a conference room or their desks. Another idea is, whenever I find someone especially interesting or knowledgible, I ask if I can set up a monthly half hour call to stay in touch and see what’s going on in their world. Sometimes the calls are mostly about work, sometimes they’re about the person’s new puppy or their kid’s shitty baseball coach or how they keep failing at going vegan because cheese. For me it’s mostly about building relationships so people feel they can trust me and come to me for help, and so we have some background if I ever need to go to them, but this could also help ensure you get personal interaction on a regular basis. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

 appleblossom217 :  Also, working from home has not adversely affected my career. I went 100% remote 2 years ago. Last year I was offered a promotion and turned it down because it would have required moving off a team that I was learning a lot from and making important connections with. I just recently was offered another even better promotion and this time I took it. If you’re a valuable contributor people notice and don’t care where you do your work from. With that said, a lot of companies are making the decision to bring remote workers back into the office. Mine is moving away from allowing new remote arrangements, but if you’re already remote and doing a good job, nobody looks down on that. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Park Winters, Winters, CA

I also work from home, but communicate with clients/fellow artisans via Skype/chat/email/social networking/in person meetings. It is lonely work sometimes when you’ve got your nose to the grindstone to make a deadline, but it helps to meet friends for coffees in the morning or just go out for lunch etc on days that you’re on your own. 

But in my case, me and Fiance both work from home so sometimes I go out with him on breaks if ours line up. But most of the time during work hours we spend our days on opposite sides of the house, for sanity’s sake since we are pretty private and quiet people who really really appreciate being able to concentrate without interruptions. It works for us and it’s going to suck if we ever have to go back to office life. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I just started working remotely a couple of months ago and I feel like all I do is talk to people!!! I am constantly on calls, constantly messaging someone, or constantly responding to emails. I get it isn’t the same as human interaction but it is more then enough for me. 

I think the hardest part in my transition is making sure I don’t feel ‘blah’and lazy.  When I first started working from home, I would literally just roll out of bed. Now, I make a point to get ‘ready’ for work in the morning. This helps if feel more real and helps me feel more productive. I also recommend a second office space. It is so easy to get distracted with the TV or on your phone and no one is watching over you to make sure your doing your work. You have to make sure to push yourself to do the work. 

I do go into the office about once every month or two and honestly it is way more counterproductive because I get bombarded with people who want me to help them with stuff. Or I will have friends who just want to talk and catch up so my whole day is just talking to people instead of actually doing work. 

I personally love working from home (I used to work nights before, so maybe I am a little bias just because it is day hours). I love the flexibility. I know if I want more projects I have to push for them  I don’t have a problem with visibility since I work with people pretty high up in the company and tend to help solve their issues. I do think you have to make more of an effort to show your productive though but it works out well for me. I still try to have a set time that I have lunch (doesn’t always work out that way) and I have a routine to walk my dogs do that I get outside and move some. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Oh also, I have never gone to a Starbucks or anything. Maybe part of that is my job and what it entails but I have never felt the need too. My hubby also works from home part time and I have my pets so I don’t really miss the human interactions but I could see how it would be hard for some. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

appleblossom217 :  yeah, I hear you. I moved to a new city (not so far away from where I lived before) but with my kids being older and being in a newish town I do get a little lonely at my home office. I have been working from home for about 6 years altogether and it can be really hard. 

It has a lot of perks though: no office drama, furry friends all day log and no dress codes or commutes. I can throw in a load of laundry and check my (real) mailbox whenever I want and many more upsides.

But I think you’re going to have to make a super extra effort to meet people (take a classs etc) or you will start to get isolated.

It’s not for everyone, and that’s not horrible. Just keep checking in with yourself and if it isn’t working out than make the change before you get too “stuck”!

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Hi Bee – I completely feel like I get your fear. I’m working from home in a new country where I don’t know anyone and barely speak the language. So yes, it’s freaking lonely sometimes!It can feel really weird!  But you can either focus on that or on all the upsides mentioned by previous posters! And your social life will pick up as you make more friends etc, so if you’re feeling socially fulfilled after work it is easier to focusndyring the day for sure. I’ve tried going to coffee shops to work but always felt like it wasn’t 100% productive because of noise and forgetting things etc – very much depends on your job. Weirdly it also made me feel lonelier knowing I can’t speak to anyone and that in the past i used to meet up with colleagues all the time.

I don’t have great tips or advice, just that it does get easier and you’ll get into a new rhythm. And just focus on the positive!!! 

 

Feel free to send me a private message if you’d like to chat more!

 

x

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Hello from another Dallas bee!

I’ve worked from home for quite a few years now and I personally love it! All the reasons that others have stated, and also I do have some medical things that make it much more comfortable and easier to work from home. I will admit I do get lonely sometimes, but you just have to keep occupied and if you can, definitely try and work someplace outside of the home for a few hours for interaction with others, or maybe simply even just run out for a coffee so you can speak to someone haha You’ll be just fine I’m sure 🙂 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Park Winters, Winters, CA

appleblossom217 :  

Ah yes. I know how that is as well. I moved across the country after I graduated college and had to make a whole new set of friends locally, aside from my close (now long distance) friends from before. 

It was rough, but what helped me was meetups! It sounds silly at first, but it does work. I found a couple groups that did tours and outings like hiking and urban sketching which aligned with my interests/job. 

Also making a point to be the one to reach out and ask if someone would like to go to coffee sometime or if they would mind chatting about work etc helps. Yes, some people will reject the offer and some will look at you like you have three heads, but no matter. You just have to keep at it and eventually you’ll just click with someone. I hope this helps! 

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