Moving to the burbs

posted 3 weeks ago in Married Life
Post # 2
1502 posts
Bumble bee

I like suburban living. I don’t like the hustle and bustle of cities. Usually, there’s less crime in the suburbs. Better schools. More affordable. Quieter. In my neighborhood, the only sounds are birds and dogs. I also like having space. Right now, I live on a 3rd of an acre. The burbs are also pretty family friendly so when my son gets older he’ll have kids his age to hang out with. For me, it’s all positives and no negatives except I guess commuting into the city for work. But I like the drive. Gives me time to decompress. 

Post # 3
15399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I grew up really close to the city (Boston) and spent so much time there until I moved to the burbs when we got married (at 30).  I used to think I was a city girl and always thought I missed it, but since going back out there the last 2 weekends to run some errands, when my husband asked if I woulud want to move back when our kids are grown and out of the house, I told him that I actually like having our yard, and space, and deck we can just step out onto.  The only thing I really do miss about the city is all the amazing and more authentic food options.

As far as DC/VA, I have friends in Vienna/Reston/Tysons who love that location.  Quite suburban, but still pretty close to DC…. distance wise at least, maybe not time wise due to traffic.

Post # 4
380 posts
Helper bee

I live in the NYC area, in the suburbs.  Besides more space and a yard, there is a neighborhood with moderate (not huge) population density that I can walk in and not risk catching COVID.  There’s peace and quiet.  There is good air quality.  There’s the ability to park a car in a driveway or garage instead of on a street where it has to be moved every so often (for street cleaning) and dug out following a snow storm.  I’m close enough to the city to get in there easily when I want to do or see something.

Post # 5
10359 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I now live in a suburb after living most of my adult life in cities (London, Sydney etc) . However, it is a beach suburb and l am literally 5 mins walk from the fabulous dog friendly beach . It also has its own little cinema, a Main Street like a country town with hairdressers , cafes , two supermarkets, antique shops and several knick  knack shops, also several restaurants of varying ethnic cuisines . Also a  strong sense of community prevails . 

So, if you chose your suburb carefully, it can be bliss . I would not be happy with nothing but streets of houses for eg. 

Post # 6
796 posts
Busy bee

I’m a Bostonian, but very familiar with the DC area. I love Vienna and Falls Church in VA, Silver Spring (that’s kind of a nice hybrid of city and suburb, as downtown is right there, but you can easily get away from it—also FANTASTIC affordable restaurants) and Wheaton in MD. Montgomery County is really nice in general, lots of woods. I don’t know what your budget is, but I think Falls Church is pretty up there in terms of price.

The price of living in the suburbs in general seems to be skyrocketing these days. My partner and I are currently in a suburb-ish area outside Boston, which has been nice in terms of access but it’s getting far too expensive for us and we’re going to have to look at some more rural areas pretty soon (which is honestly fine by me, I’ve always been a country girl at heart). Meanwhile, my cousin just bought a four bedroom house in rural North Carolina for the same price as a one bedroom shitbox apartment in the worst part of our neighborhood. Northeast real estate SUUUUUCKS! 

Post # 7
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t live in the burbs now, but I did stay with my mom for a summer when she was lived in a townhouse in the DC suburbs (Maryland). It was nice because we had a walled in yard area in back. The neighbors were nice and it was quiet. The only part I didn’t like was that I had to drive the beltway to work because I was working in another DC suburb. If you can take public transportation from your suburb to work, I think it is a really good choice. We enjoyed taking the Metro into the city when we went to events or to sightsee. 

Post # 8
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I moved from a very large city to a mid-size city. I live within the city limits, 10 minutes drive from downtown, in a very suburban-feeling neiguborhood. We have half-acre lots, tons of trees, owls, deer, even foxes, yet less than 15 minutes to the best restaurants in town. Best of both worlds!

Post # 9
4951 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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@anonbee3584:  Me!  We moved from downtown to the burbs.  I’m happy to PM you about specific neighborhoods if you’d like.  We actually just moved further into the burbs now that we are expecting our first child.  We also moved from a townhouse and absolutely love having a yard.  It’s so much quieter out here, but still fairly easy to get downtown (at least with covid-level traffic).  

ETA: The housing market is INSANE so you’re probably going to need a hefty budget and to be prepared to lose a lot of houses during your search.  We did successfully find one, but it took us a while.  

Post # 10
355 posts
Helper bee

West Coast bee here. I have lived in the suburbs all my life, so I can’t compare the transition from city living, but I love it and can’t imagine living anywhere else. 

As others have mentioned, we have a lot of space and aren’t crammed in with other houses or apartments. We have a 3 car garage and never need to park on the street or driveway. Huge backyard where my dog can run around and play. We are on a quiet cul-de-sac by an elementary school, and I see kids out riding their bikes and playing all the time. Where I grew up, there were 20-30 kids on the same street and we all played on the street together, hockey, basketball, making ramps for our bikes. We walked to school together, and had big block parties for Halloween and NYE. It was a great and safe community feel and I couldn’t have had a better childhood there. When I graduated college and looked for a house of my own, I couldn’t afford the area my parents are in but I found a community nearby very similar to the one I grew up in because I wanted to get that same experience for my kids. We do have a cookie-cutter style track home, but I love the beautiful community do that part doesn’t bother me. 

Post # 11
3081 posts
Sugar bee

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@anonbee3584:  parking availability!

Safe and friendly neighborhoods, kids riding their bikes and people walking their dogs down the street instead of heavy traffic. Still close to all the big stores just a few mins of driving away or even walking depending on where you are going. 

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