Post # 1
I’m trying to finalize invitation wording and I’m really struggling with this opening language. I know the traditional, formal means of addressing a married couple is Mr. and Mrs. Arthur Smith, for example, but I really dislike the implications that Mrs. Arthur Smith sends… maybe it’s the gender studies scholar in me, I don’t know, but it’s really rubbing me the wrong way to name my mother as Mrs. X Upnorth when she is Mrs. Y Upnorth, you know?
Should I stick with the “correct,” high formal language above or can I go with what I have below?
Here it is, as it stands:
Mr. and Mrs. Father and Mother Upnorth
request the honor of your presence
at the celebration uniting their daughter
Husband to Be
In the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
Friday, the twenty-eighth of December
two thousand and twelve
at six o’clock in the evening
Post # 3
In 2012, I don’t think there are any implications – that is, no one is actually going to think of your mother as your father’s “property” if you use the formal version. Which is what I would vote for.
Post # 4
I like the way you wrote it! What don’t you like about it?
Post # 5
With joyful hearts,
Dad and Mom LaurenKK
request your presence at the marriage of their daughter
on September 8th, 2012
at 3:30 in the afternoon
And my Dad’s a dr. technically and we didn’t put any of that on there.
Post # 6
I totally get where you are coming from, but I personally do not think it conveys that. I doubt anyone reading it will think; Hey, wait a second, i’m not my husbands property! I know many people feel differently, but to me, a person is worth a lot more than their name.
Go with what you feel comfortable with, and try not to worry too much about the implications of the name on the envelope, they probably won’t even pay attention to it anyway!