Post # 1
Hello again ladies. I was surfing the boards a few nights ago and I came across Mr. Bees three step thing. I realized that I had already begun doing the back up plan several weeks ago. I got a new puppy whom I am obsessed with, I’ve been doing Zumba for a little over a month now, and I have hung out with my girls a lot more lately.
I was curious to hear about any success or disaster stories about your experiences with this process. Did he come around to proposing sooner than you thought? Did he feel like you were pushing him away to the point where he shut down? If he did propose sooner than you thought, how long was it after you started?
PS. I am not about playing mind games. I have been making a genuine effort to focus on myself instead of being so caught up in my waiting situation. I just want to hear about the repercussions you ladies have run into.
Post # 3
I just thought I’d share the POV of some guys. Out of curiosity, I showed this plan to some of my recently engaged guy friends. All of them said that a guy will pop the question when he’s good and ready. They were in agreement that it wouldn’t matter how many new hobbies you picked up, how many girls’ nights you had, or how much you did/didn’t talk about marriage. All of the guys said that having a discussion now and then didn’t bother them. It was the incessant nagging that they all agreed would be a factor in delaying it (I’m talking constant comments and nagging). One guy said his now-fiance did that and he started to feel like she was “emotionally cheating on him with the wedding.” haha.
Post # 4
I agree with the guys’ thoughts. I feel like your SO will propose when he is ready. That said though, I think some men would respond to Mr. Bee’s plan and feel like they had to gurry and propose before their girl realized they didn’t need them or something. I know my Boyfriend or Best Friend personally wouldn’t respond well to that. No matter how much I nag, he will propose when he is ready and in fact, if I nag, that may make him push back the proposal even more just so he feels like he is in control and is not proposing simply because I’m nagging him to do it. So since I have gotten my timeline, I have not mentioned weddings and proposals, and I am trusting that he is doing what he needs to behind the scenes so that he will ready by the timeline that he set for himself. You have to find what works for your man. HTH!
Post # 5
I think a lot of the response men have to things like this is subconscious. Like, it sounds silly when you say it out loud, and men probably don’t want to admit they’d be swayed by such things, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t.
Granted, some men would propose anyway, and some never will, but I still don’t think it couldn’t make a difference in the ones that seem as though they could go either way.