Post # 107
Just discovered this Mr. Bee plan, and I actually read a book about a year ago that was similar to this. Funny thing is that “the backup plan” part is starting to work for me. I recently started focusing more on what I want to do rather than what “we” are doing as a couple. And, my BF started inquiring about how I see our relationship, and thoughts on marriage, etc.
You don’t have to try to trick him or sabotage anything. Just be yourself, but really focus on yourself and what you want out of life that is not marriage-related. I was focusing more on my career at the time, and just not thinking about my man as much. I let him come to me. Men like to chase their woman, and want a woman who has her own interests.
We will see how thing go!
Post # 108
I wish I would have read this a long time ago! The good news is I just joined a gym on Friday! Haha!
Post # 109
Oh, and PS- nothing happened after I joined a gym. So, this is not always the answer. Although, SO was very intrigued as to why I joined the gym, and he always wanted to know when I was going to the gym.
Post # 110
Women hoping to get engaged should also read The Rules. This book is genius about the way men/women relate to each other. Even women in relationships should read it every year or so to refresh your memory and remind yourself how to be “a creature unlike any other”!
Post # 111
@ChickN: Mr. Bee’s Plan, while it works for some people, is definitely not always the answer. Please see my comments above for another guy’s view on the plan.
Post # 114
Thank you so much. I can finally breathe!
Post # 115
haha! I’m sooo glad I came across this post when I did. I haven’t been in my relationship all that long, but I am finally in love with someone really great who seems to think I’m pretty great too and I want to eventually seal the deal with this one, lol! Just recently we’ve hit a weird patch and I had already decided to get back to focusing 110% on my work, my friends/family relationships, my own health and exercise, etc. I’ve read all the “Rules” books so I knew this was something I needed to do anyway, for my own good, but I’m positive putting this “plan” into place will only make him more attracted to me than ever. I need to become more “unavailable” again, lol! 😉
Post # 116
Well, I thought this was b.s., and then I remembered that I got engaged shortly after coming back from a long fabulous trip, that I went on without him. So there may be some truth to it.
But seriously, women . . . you know you can propose, right? I mean, you know you can initiate the most important conversation you’ll ever have in your lives, right? It’s almost scary to me how much this post assumes that women just have zero control over their lives and are absolutely fine with that.
Post # 117
very new in the site.. and reading something like this really helps.. i wanna start doing the back up plan hehe.. loved it.
Post # 118
This is a really helpful post. Last week I joined WW and I’m seeing 5 girl friends this week. I’m also going to get my hair and nails done just for me.
Thank you Mr. Bee!
Post # 119
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
I am bumping this because there are a lot of bees who would benifit from this…
Plus, we haven’t talked about this in a while
Post # 120
@Sapphire-Dreamer: Good work as usual Sapph!
Post # 121
OMG! i have started to the backup plan without knowing i was even doing the backup plan, how cool, i believe that this plan will work, because the other way having it shoved in his face hasn’t so far so why not shut up about it! that’s what i’m doing and even this morning, i said im going to the gym with my mate tonight, and he complained that we need to spend more time together, i said i see you everyday he said yeah but you’ve been out everynight this week ( i said no i haven’t because i have only been out twice, and today is thursday), so he is noticing that i am just getting on with my life, which wihtout thinking, he must be him missing me to say we need to spend more time together, when i feel we do, oh well, we’ll see what happens.
I think your advice is awesome and i just wish i had read it like last year, before i had my breakdown. lool
good luck girls, guys dont like it being shoved in their faces, i learnt the hard way!