"Mrs./Mr." or First Name with In-Laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you refer to your in-laws?

    Mr./Mrs. Whatever

    First Names

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  • Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I dated DH since I was 16, so I called them Mr and Mrs up until our wedding. Now that we’re married, I call them their first names, but it still feels uncomfortable almost a year in. I think they’d prefer Mom and Dad, but I’m definitely not comfortable with that so first names it is!

    ETA: My mom just literally never addressed her in-laws. Now that her parents have passed, she has just started calling them Mom and Dad.

    Post # 32
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    Newbee

    I’m not close to my in laws so I just refer to them as my husband’s mom/dad.

    Post # 33
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I called my fiance’s parents Mr./Mrs. prior to getting engaged but began calling them Mom/Dad after the announcement. 

    Post # 34
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    You could always try calling them with the old hybrid of Mr. Jack and Mrs. Joan until everybody gets used to hearing their given names from you…

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I don’t call my future in-laws anything. If I have to refer to them, I call them FH’s mom/dad. If I absolutely have to call them something, I say their first names. I refuse to call them Mr./Mrs., but won’t be changing my name so it wouldn’t cause confusion. 

    Post # 36
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    frenchtoastvegan :  hahaha glad I’m not alone! It freaks me out when people say they call their in-laws “mom/dad” and I can’t even call them by their first name like a normal adult 😂

    Post # 37
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

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    eazybreezy :  I’ve wanted to call my in laws “Mom” and “Dad” and it brings me tremendous joy that I feel close enough with them to do so. They weren’t automatically entitled to the terms though. I just know they love me the same way my parents love their son, so it  feels right in this situation. I know plenty normal adults outside of my family who call in laws Mom and Dad. To each their own with this. No biggie either way 

     

     

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    schuyler :  what I meant when I said “normal adult” was that a normal adult should be able to address another adult by their first names and I can’t even do that. I was laughing at myself, not at the people who call their in-laws “mom/dad”. I think it’s really nice that you feel so close to them. I also feel very close to my in-laws, more so than even my own parents. But for some reason I just can’t get passed the awkwardness lol 

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