Mrs or Ms

posted 10 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
6605 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

qwertystar :  Pretty sure that’s entirely up to you. 

Post # 3
1362 posts
Bumble bee

Your choice. I prefer Ms. for myself. It sounds more youthful to me lol.

Post # 4
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

qwertystar :  all of the women I know that did the double-barrel use “Ms.” but it’s up to you. I took my husband’s name and dropped my maiden and I use Ms professionally but prefer Mrs socially. 

Post # 5
2794 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Up to you. I have a double barrelled name (I took my husband’s double barrelled name) and I use Mrs. I personally dislike Ms… I feel like it’s missing a letter. It just doesn’t sound right. 

Post # 6
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

In my mind Ms means I don’t really want to say. 

I am Ms because I was married but widowed and now engaged so I prefer currently not to be Mrs. But when I get married again I will be Mrs.

It obviously means different things to different people so I think you should do what you like 🙂 


Post # 7
12125 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Most properly it would be Ms. Mrs. means “wife of” and you can’t be married to yourself. But people now use their first names with Mrs. for example Mrs. Michelle Obama, which would have been considered wrong at one time, too. IMO you should call yourself whatever you like. 

Post # 8
6444 posts
Bee Keeper

I usually address myself as MRS.  But I also don’t care if I’m addressed as Ms.

Post # 9
538 posts
Busy bee

Everybody I know goes by Ms (or Dr!) whether they kept their own name, took their spouse’s name, designed a new name together, had a spouse take their name or what. Where I live (urban NE USA) Mrs sounds grandmotherly.

Post # 10
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m a Ms! I don’t see why my marital status should define my title while this isn’t the case for my husband! I also agree it feels younger to me and for me, it felt like a halfway house as I took my husband’s name.

But it’s completely up to you! If my experience is anything to go by, people will tend to default to Mrs anyway..! 

Post # 11
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Entirely up to you.

I am not changing my name legally but plan to add his last name to the end of mine socially. In most contexts I will go by Ms. but when we sign cards or formally introduce ourselves as a unit, we will go by “Mr and Mrs Anna and David Mine-His” (not actually our names).

Post # 12
3456 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I use Ms. because Mrs. would suggest that my husband’s surname is also Smith-Jones (which is a thing, btw).  With that said, I do not object to being addressed as Mrs. Jones socially because it just means wife of Jones, which I definitely am. Incidentally, where I live, the local accent doesn’t differentiate much between the pronunciation of Miss, Ms. and Mrs so it rarely comes up. 

Post # 13
141 posts
Blushing bee

I like Ms. because as other posters have said, it doesn’t indicate marital status. Why should women have to advertise it when men don’t?

Post # 14
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I go by Ms. because my husband’s title didn’t change so why should mine? Plus Mrs. sounds soooo matronly. 

Post # 15
790 posts
Busy bee

I’ve been married for over 2 years and I don’t think I’ve personally addressed myself as Ms. or Mrs. In what context would I need to use that? I don’t introduce myself as Mrs. Last name. I introduce myself with my first name. Anyways, either are grammatically correct. Ms. leaves it open for interpretation, you could be married, engaged, single, etc. Miss indicates you are single and Mrs. indicates you are married.

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