Mrs or Ms

posted 2 weeks ago in Weddingbee
Post # 16
2020 posts
Buzzing bee

Up to you, but my personal preferance has always been Ms.  It’s always irked me that men get the same title whether they’re married or not (Mr.) but we’re supposed to signal our availability (Miss vs Mrs).  

Post # 17
342 posts
Helper bee

 misslucy :  THIS.

When booking flights, appointments, reservations I’m always asked to choose between Miss and Mrs (we don’t have a Ms. equivalent in my language).

And I’m like, Why does the airline need to know my marital status to book a flight?!

Post # 18
7342 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Using Ms rather than  Mrs or Miss is entirely do with the idea that you do not have to announce your martial status ,just as men  do with the maritally-neutral Mr. 

It  is not to do with what surname  or combination of surnames you use, yours, his, an  amalgam,  whatever. Nor is it anything to do with *age or divorce  or any of the the strange things it has become  contaminated with .  It is merely a maritally-neutral term .


* though I guess you might address a little girl as Miss  on an  invitation etc  as you might address  a little boy as  Master  

Post # 19
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Personal preference. I use Ms. now and I will continue using it after we get married. I don’t like Mrs. at all! 

Post # 20
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

in some countries (e.g Germany) the Mrs term has become more about age than marital status. Adult women will more often be called Frau regardless of whether they are married. 

I think miss and master are appropriate for children for sure. 

I just wish Ms sounded better. To me it just sounds incomplete so I prefer not to use it. 

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