(Closed) Mrs or Ms for a widow??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you list a widow as a Ms. or a Mrs. on an escort card?
    Ms. : (13 votes)
    19 %
    Mrs. : (55 votes)
    80 %
    Neither of those are correct (explain please) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Do they still go by their married name? My dad died when I was four and my mom went as Mrs. because she kept her married name.

    Post # 4
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    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    If you don’t know what the woman prefers, I’d stick with Mrs. It’s traditional.

    Post # 5
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Hyperventilate:  This. My first answer is always whatever she prefers, but Mrs. is traditional.

    Post # 7
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    946 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Ugh, I just went through this and ended up addressing them as mrs. Same with divorced women that kept their ex-husband’s last name. 

    I never realized that addressing invites would be such a hard thing.

    Post # 8
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    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    ms. is always correct, for anyone. the whole point of ms., as opposed to miss or mrs, is that it isn’t dependent on marital status in anyway, whatsoever, the same way mr. is used for any male. since this is your mom and mil though, i’d just ask them what they prefer. but in general, ms. is always the safe option.

    Post # 9
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would use Mrs. for someone like my grandma, who is 90 years old and was married to my grandpa until he died a few years ago.

    I would use Ms. for someone who is younger or dating again.

    Post # 10
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    1019 posts
    Bumble bee

    @finnaroo:  +1! Ask what they want, or just use Ms.

    Post # 11
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    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I will use Mrs. on mine.

    Some older woman would be very offended if you used Ms. (my grandma would get super upset).

    Post # 12
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    13292 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Mrs. is traditional and I’d use that for any ones with questions.  If you know someone (like your mom) prefers Ms., use that.

    Post # 15
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Ms. works for either a single or married woman.  However, if you are using Mrs. for a married woman, it should also be used for a widow.

    Post # 16
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    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @finnaroo:  +1

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