(Closed) Mrs. Scrooge here

posted 4 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

TiaMP:  You sound like you have a lot on your plate, emotionally speaking. I’m sorry to about your grandfather’s passing (mine passed away on October 2). Don’t be hard on yourself because you’re not feeling all warm and fuzzy inside. Try to relax and give yourself permission to be a bah-humbug; accept it, then move on when you’re ready. I wish I knew how to get it your Christmas spirit back. I need a little boost too. 

Post # 3
11693 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

TiaMP:  I’m having a hard time finding my spirit this year as well – we also have a ton going on and I’m stressed about money and things as well.

Keep trying!  It’ll come!

Post # 5
386 posts
Helper bee

In past years I haven’t been a huge fan of christmas either.  What I find helps get me in the mood is doing good things in my community.

I know money might be tight with bills but could you volunteer your time somewhere?

Post # 6
10589 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Have you considered volunteering, or doing something for others?

Post # 9
46613 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love Christmas, but I give myself (and everyone else) permission to wait until it is closer to Christmas. Christmas is a day not a month or two.

I have started shopping, but I do that all year round- keeping my eye out for the perfect gift. I also shop all year  for the family we sponsor every year. When I spy great bargains, be it for socks, underwear, pyjamas, clothes, boots, non-perishable foods  etc  I add them to my collection.

Take the pressure off yourself and enjoy each day as it is.

Post # 10
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

TiaMP:  I have a lot on my plate, emotionally, too so no way am I in the spirit. Usually my house and outside is decorated by now, but I just.don’t.care. Pals on FB suggested a few things and my fave was having some eggnog and brandy.  Haven’t tried it yet, but I plan on it!

Post # 12
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

TiaMP:  Condolences on your grandfathers passing. It seems as though you have a lot going on at the moment. I’m sure it is all taking an emotional toll on you, making it hard to get into the Christmas spirit.

Maybe making some festive food & drinks and spending time with family and friends will help get you in the Christmas mood!

Post # 14
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hi OP. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. My grandfather died at the end of November 4 years ago and it really cast a shadow on the holiday. It’s still a difficult time for my mother. So if it’s hard for you, that’s okay. 

First of all, I think you should give yourself permission to feel your feelings. Don’t stamp them down. Don’t ignore them. How you feel is how you feel. There isn’t anything wrong with that. We like to think of Christmas as a happy time but it’s actually a very difficult time for a lot of people, largely because of all the ‘enforced cheer’ associated with it. I mean, “the happiest season of all” is a lot to live up to. I think it’s also harder for adults to enjoy the holidays because we have responsibilities and money worries and other stressors that don’t just go away. So if you don’t feel as you usually do, that’s okay. If your family is still happy  and excited and you’re not, that’s okay. People deal with things differently and you don’t know how they feel on the inside. Don’t be mad at yourself or blame yourself or beat yourself up for not being able to get into the spirit. IT’S OKAY.

Furthermore, as you’re religious and you’re having a hard time, maybe you should try to go to church more often. If your church or another one in your faith has special Christmas services or a special Bible study around the holidays, maybe you could go to that. Focusing on the religious aspects of the season, even more than usual, might help bring you some peace and hope. Even just reading the parts of the Bible leading up to and after Jesus’ birth and meditating on it on your own might help. Also not sure if you are/how you feel about Catholicisim, but Catholic Churches often have nice little concerts around now where common Christmas hymns are sung and even if you’re not Catholic, you’re probably familiar with those songs and you might enjoy going to that kind of show. It can be surprisingly comforting.

And of course, volunteering is always a good idea. I hope you feel better soon, OP, but even if you don’t, that’s okay. Take your time and don’t try to force yourself to be happy and cheerful if you’re not.

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