Post # 1
Help! what do I write on invitations for my single female friends? ms? Or miss? I started writing out Ms because miss didn’t sound right to me unless it was for my 10 yo neices… But now I’m doubting myself. What do you think? I’m trying to think about the last few weddings I’ve been to.. And I’m thinking it was ms. So I just thought I’d get some bees suggestions!
Post # 3
Miss because I was taught that Ms. is for divorced women.
Post # 4
I’ve always been taught that Miss was for girls under 18.
Post # 5
I usually use Miss for 24 and under and Ms. for 25 and up.
I may just be weird, though.
Post # 6
I used miss for my friends and cousins who are my age (early 20s) and Ms. for older females who were never married or were divorced.
Post # 7
@hazyleyedbeauty: Miss is for a single woman. Ms. is for divorced (most people use this in place of “I’m not sure if they’re married or not”). Mrs. is married.
ETA: I don’t know if you just wrote it that way in the poll, but when writing Miss, there is no period after it, because it isn’t an abbreviation; only Ms. and Mrs. have them.
Post # 8
@tm21308: +1 I was taught Miss for unmarried and Ms for divorced women
Post # 9
I didn’t use any M titles on my invitations, so there’s that option too.
Post # 10
I’d prefer Miss too. Ms. sounds divorced and can be either single or married.
Post # 11
Most modern etiquette guides (one example is the 2011 Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, pg. 57) and style guides (the NYT, etc.) state that Ms. is an honorific that is useful because it does not ask the person addressing the envelope to guess a person’s status or to guess a person’s preferences and that it should be used unless, in the words of the Guardian (UK) style guide, “they have expressed a preference for Miss or Mrs” (quotation from the Guardian taken from Wikipedia.org).
Post # 12
“Ms.” is what I ALWAYS use unless told otherwise by the person themselves. You shouldn’t assume anyone’s marital status, I feel that is impolite. It is also impolite to assume someone’s age. And what if they are married, but younger than 25, or whatever arbitrary age? Seems silly.
“Ms.” is just the absolutely neutral equivalent of “Mr.” You can use “Ms.” if you’re married, if you’re young, if you’re old. I know many married women who actually insist on being a “Ms.” “Miss” is only for little girls, and is demeaning, IMO.
I’m REALLY surprised that people are saying “Ms” is for divorced women, I have never in my life heard that, and my experience doesn’t seem to match that at all!!!
Post # 13
I always go with Ms. Because a womans age or marital status should not matter. When I hear Miss, I think of young girls, teenage or younger.
I have NEVER associted Ms. with divorced women. I never even heard of that before.
Post # 14
I guess I’m also basing my opinion on the fact that as an unmarried teacher, I am referred to as Ms. Lastname not Miss Lastname. It seems like there are many different opinions, so I would go with whatever is most accepted in your area.
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Post # 16
I used “Miss” for unmarried ladies under 30 and “Ms.” for those who are divorced or unmarried and over 30.
Not sure if there is a hard and fast rule on that … Maybe someone can enlighten me! I’m sure that wouldn’t be my biggest etiquette faux pas!