(Closed) Ms or Mrs?

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: Now that you are married, which did (or will you choose) Mrs. or Ms.?
    Mrs—and I changed my last name to his : (91 votes)
    65 %
    Ms—and I changed my last name to his : (14 votes)
    10 %
    Mrs—I hyphenated or combined our names : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Ms—I hyphenated or combined our names : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Mrs—and I kept my Maiden name : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Ms—and I kept my Maiden name : (17 votes)
    12 %
    Other (comment below) : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i am Mrs. Myfirstname mymiddlename mylastname hislastname

    so i have two last names NO HYPHEN.

    Post # 5
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Dh changes his name to mine, so I wonder what to go by?  Hasn’t come up yet, but I think I would be a Ms.

    Post # 6
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i’m ms. mylast hislast (not hyphenated but 2 last names; my middle name is my mom’s maiden name so i really have 3 last names)

    i don’t care if someone were to call me mrs. his last, but if i’m wriitng my name somewhere or have the option, i always choose ms.!

    Post # 7
    1553 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I totally get the argument that because Mr. doesn’t advertise a man’s marital status, it seems inequitable that “Miss” and “Mrs.” inform others of a woman’s marital status…as if a man is just a man all by himself, but a woman’s status is determined somehow by her attachment (or lack of attachment) to a man. 

    However, I still LIKE being called Mrs.  I love my husband (and no, I’m not AT ALL saying that those who don’t like being called Mrs. don’t love their husbands — that would be silly) and and so excited about being married to him that I LOVE that Mrs. advertises that fact. 

    I don’t wish there was a single female equivalent to Mr. (like Ms.) that all women use; I wish there were two forms of title for men.  One for single men and one for married men, just like there is for us.  That way, my husband could use the married man title too, to advertise that HE is married.  I’d love that!

    Post # 8
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @peacegrl099: it was super easy – i thought i would have push back with Soc Security since i wasnt using a hypen but it was suprisingly easy.

    i forget there are hispanic cultures that do it normally (usually they have hypens though) but my best friend whos from Puerto Rico is like – um thats what we normally do so thats not odd to me 🙂 lol

    and it helps with work too.

    Post # 9
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I dont think you can be Mrs if you keep your maiden name.

    Post # 10
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t know if I understand the question completely.  I wouldn’t care if someone addressed me socially as “Mrs.” or addressed a personal card or invitation to me that way.  Professionally, however, you should never address a woman as “Mrs.” even if you know that she is married.  If I were filling out a form, I think I would continue to choose “Ms.”

    Post # 11
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @EleanorRigby: Yep, I write a fair amount of business letters to women I do not know very well. I’ve had it drilled into me to use Ms. every single time.

    Personally, I will be Ms. MyLast, but that’s an easy one.  I’m sure there are people out there who want to be called Mrs. MaidenName, because there’s lots of people, but it’s not a usual convention.  You can be Ms. Anything though.  It’s the default title for all women.

    Post # 13
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I like being called “Dr.”, actually  :). I did not change my name when I got married, so socially I would like to be called Ms. “Mrs” is not correct for someone who has not changed their name. It actually really, really irritates me when I get things addressed to me as Mrs, even if they otherwise got my last name correct. I don’t want to have a title attached to me that announces my marital status to the world if there is no male equivalent.

    Post # 14
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @bells: yep you can be a Mrs. with your maiden name – MRS just signifies you are married.

    Post # 15
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m still the same as before we got married Ms. First name Maiden name

    Post # 16
    2858 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    Ms. Myfirst Mylast

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