Post # 1
Firstly, I’ve taken his last name and added my maiden to my middle: First OriginalMiddle MaidenMiddle HisLast. It’s been weird having a different last name,but I’ve been easing the transition by answering my work phone as First Maiden NewLast
But I have a delima—I’ve always been Ms never Miss. I felt very strongly that my marital status shouldn’t be broadcast by the prefix to my name. Now that I *am* married, I don’t know how I feel about that stance anymore. Do I want to be Ms. NewLast or Mrs. NewLast?
What did you decide?
Post # 3
i am Mrs. Myfirstname mymiddlename mylastname hislastname
so i have two last names NO HYPHEN.
Post # 4
@spaganya: THat is what I would like to do
Post # 5
Dh changes his name to mine, so I wonder what to go by? Hasn’t come up yet, but I think I would be a Ms.
Post # 6
i’m ms. mylast hislast (not hyphenated but 2 last names; my middle name is my mom’s maiden name so i really have 3 last names)
i don’t care if someone were to call me mrs. his last, but if i’m wriitng my name somewhere or have the option, i always choose ms.!
Post # 7
I totally get the argument that because Mr. doesn’t advertise a man’s marital status, it seems inequitable that “Miss” and “Mrs.” inform others of a woman’s marital status…as if a man is just a man all by himself, but a woman’s status is determined somehow by her attachment (or lack of attachment) to a man.
However, I still LIKE being called Mrs. I love my husband (and no, I’m not AT ALL saying that those who don’t like being called Mrs. don’t love their husbands — that would be silly) and and so excited about being married to him that I LOVE that Mrs. advertises that fact.
I don’t wish there was a single female equivalent to Mr. (like Ms.) that all women use; I wish there were two forms of title for men. One for single men and one for married men, just like there is for us. That way, my husband could use the married man title too, to advertise that HE is married. I’d love that!
Post # 8
@peacegrl099: it was super easy – i thought i would have push back with Soc Security since i wasnt using a hypen but it was suprisingly easy.
i forget there are hispanic cultures that do it normally (usually they have hypens though) but my best friend whos from Puerto Rico is like – um thats what we normally do so thats not odd to me 🙂 lol
and it helps with work too.
Post # 9
I dont think you can be Mrs if you keep your maiden name.
Post # 10
I don’t know if I understand the question completely. I wouldn’t care if someone addressed me socially as “Mrs.” or addressed a personal card or invitation to me that way. Professionally, however, you should never address a woman as “Mrs.” even if you know that she is married. If I were filling out a form, I think I would continue to choose “Ms.”
Post # 11
@EleanorRigby: Yep, I write a fair amount of business letters to women I do not know very well. I’ve had it drilled into me to use Ms. every single time.
Personally, I will be Ms. MyLast, but that’s an easy one. I’m sure there are people out there who want to be called Mrs. MaidenName, because there’s lots of people, but it’s not a usual convention. You can be Ms. Anything though. It’s the default title for all women.
Post # 12
@EleanorRigby: Professionally, I will be Ms. NewLast and I won’t care if I happen to get mail to Mrs. NewLast, but I’m filling out a magzine subscptions where you have to choose. Not a huge deal, just another area of the name change–getting married thing I didn’t realize or think about. (ie-Having to initial something at work with a different last initial)
Post # 13
I like being called “Dr.”, actually :). I did not change my name when I got married, so socially I would like to be called Ms. “Mrs” is not correct for someone who has not changed their name. It actually really, really irritates me when I get things addressed to me as Mrs, even if they otherwise got my last name correct. I don’t want to have a title attached to me that announces my marital status to the world if there is no male equivalent.
Post # 14
@bells: yep you can be a Mrs. with your maiden name – MRS just signifies you are married.
Post # 15
I’m still the same as before we got married Ms. First name Maiden name