Post # 1
I need a fresh perspective on a situation I’m currently dealing with. I asked my FI’s cousin in early October to be mine and my 4 bridesmaids’ MUA. She gladly accepted, we talked tentative dates for my makeup trial, all was good.
Fast forward to last week. She sends me a message on facebook asking for my day-of timeline. I told her I wasn’t 100% sure, as I hadn’t booked my hair appointments, but that I had hoped to have everyone’s hair/makeup ready by 11:00. My MUA tells me there’s another bride inquiring about the day, and asked if it would be okay if she comes to my house at around noon(ish) in order to “fairly accomodate everyone”. My FI’s family is Lebanese. They have a tradition where they “pick up” the bride before heading to the church. They’d probably be arriving at around 12:30, so that will not work. I told her this, she read the messasge, but has yet to reply. It’s been a week now since I last messaged her.
I thought I could keep this off my list of things to stress about, but the uncertainty has been creating a tiny-but-very-present knot in my stomach. Her brother is one of my FI’s groomsmen, and she and her entire family will be attending the wedding…I definitely don’t want to cause any unnecessary family tension. Is it fairly common for MUA to attend to two seperate bridal parties in the same day? Should I be looking into alternatives?
Thanks Bees. Appreciate any help.
Edited to add: I am planning to pay for her services, if that makes any difference at all!
Post # 3
You definitely want to have her undivided attention and not be stressing about your timeline. There is no way she can do makeup for a bride and 4 bridesmaids in a half hour. no freaking way. she should honor her commitment to you since you were first but if she wants to prioritize this second bride’s appointment, then kindly say that you’ll have to explore other options since this might not work.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I don’t know if it’s common for MUAs to attend multiple events in a day, but regardless it’s only professional that they respect each event’s timeline. You don’t have a concrete day of timeline, but you know you need to be ready by 12:30 (or 11 as you mentioned). Gently message her again and let her know that you’ve been a little worried about the issue so just want to make sure the timing is okay with her.
Post # 5
I hate to be rude by asking this, Are you paying her full price? Just because if she’s doing it cheap because you’re family she may prioritise something else for money’s sake.
Post # 6
My MUA had 4 bridals to do the day of my wedding including me. I would wait a bit longer to see what she replys with. You have a little time if you end up having to find someone else.
Post # 7
@Honeyblood: We haven’t discussed price yet (I know… Terrible and very unlike me!) but I fully intend to pay her full price for her services.
Post # 8
@MsKaz: hmm, then I’m at a loss! Check she knows this, but I think you need to tell her your deadlines and make sure she’s aware that you’re scared of running late/not getting everyone’s makeup done in time.
She may be willing to skip the other and was just checking what you thought about that? More considering than 100% saying she wanted to do the other one too?
Post # 9
An update: She offered to do my bridal party starting at 6:00/6:30AM. I’m worried about having it done so early (and before hair), and whether she’ll have to rush to go attend to the other bridal party. I feel stuck.
Post # 10
She has placed you first and if she is professional she will not rush she knows how to time it and my MUA had another bridal party after ours it’s normal we started at 7 am and should have started earlier