(Closed) Much needed advice!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you love your Fiance, you are going to have to learn not ot let this man upset you. You can’t control what he says, but you can learn to control your response.

Post # 4
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46406 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you love your Fiance, you are going to have to learn not to let this man upset you. You can’t control what he says, but you can learn to control your response.
Let your Mom be your example. Listen to him, then do what you think is best.

Post # 5
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that as a young couple, your FI’s dad’s feelings are completely valid and normal. I went through the same thing with my parents, to the point of my dad threatening to disown me if I got engaged to Darling Husband and moved across the country to be with him (he took it back about five minutes later).

I feel like the way you described the story, ex: I could write a novel full of all the ridiculous things he has said and done it sounds like you aren’t really respecting his opinions or taking them seriously, and maybe even acting a little bit immature? You should try to approach it by saying that although you respect his concerns, you have done a lot of thinking and feel that you are ready. You still plan on doing XYZ and still have goals, but would like to achieve these together. I would try to be conscious of his/their feelings and assure them that you’ve thought out your decision, you will still finish school regardless of whether you’re married or not, and you do in fact have your heads on straight. Good luck and just remember, you’ll be dealing with these people the rest of your lives so handle this carefully! =]

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