Post # 1
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Worker bee
So my half-sister is 19 years older than me. I would love to have her in my wedding party if she wants to be. She would be my Matron of Honor. I will also have my best friend be my Maid of honor. I just dont want her to feel uncomfortable with anything. I am 25 and she is 44, the rest of the briday party are all my friends that are my age. I will also be having her daughters- my neices ages 10 and 11, be my junior bridesmaids. I definetely want her to be apart of my wedding day. I will probably ultimately just ask her what part she wants to play in the wedding and see where she stands but I just want to hear your opinions.
Post # 2
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Busy bee
c4rr134nn: I would just tell her you’d love for her to be your Matron of Honor, and ask her if she’d like to do that. Just be open to the possibility that she’d rather be involved in your wedding in some other capacity. You might also tell her what would be involved. Also consider the age-appropriateness of the dress you ask her to wear.
My half-sister is 17 years younger than me and will be in my wedding; when the time comes I would happily be in hers though I may not participate in things like the bachelorette (depending on the activity).
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Not quite as big of a gap, but I had my much younger little sister as my maid of honor. She was 17 and all the rest of the bridesmaids were my age (26). When my little sister gets married, I would be hurt if she didn’t ask me, even though I probably would be a decade older then the other bridesmaids. I think she would be honored to be asked.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I definitely think you should ask her. The one thing you might take in to consideration is not making your bridesmaids dresses look to young, or just picking a color and letting each girl wear something that suits her!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
My sister and I have a 16 year gap between us. I hope when she gets married and I am the older one in the wedding party she still wants to include me. She is going to be my only bridesmaid. I don’t think age should come into play here, she is still your sister.
Also, I don’t think you should ask her what part she wants to play, you should offer up to her what you want her to do. Asking her what she wants to do may make her feel uncomfortable and as if you haven’t chosen a spot for her.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
c4rr134nn: My sister and I have a 17-year gap, and we were both in each other’s weddings! We had a blast — go for it!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
My sister is 14 years older than me. She was 41 at my wedding. She wore the same dress as the rest of my bridesmaids (if she didnt feel comfortable I would have come up with an alternative). I would never have not considered asking her, but would have understood if she had said no. I was also in her wedding, but I was 8 at the time!
Post # 8
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Worker bee
Thanks for the comments! Yes I am planning on having mismatched dresses all within a color range so she would be able to pick whatever dress she wanted. And she did have me in her wedding when I was 10.
fe0208: See thanks for bringing that up about not really having a spot for her. I guess I didnt think of it that way.. I dont want her to feel akward and uncomfortable thinking I dont know where to include her.
You don’t think she will be uncomfortable and out of place with my friends? And also having her daughters in the briday party too? I mean she is super cool and would drink with all of us and have a ton of fun. Theres also the option of having her do a reading or something at the ceremony..
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
c4rr134nn: That is not a huge deal or age gap to be honest. I am 40 almost 41 and I would have no issues with being in a bridal party who is their 20’s
Post # 10
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Worker bee
Sassygrn: Thank you that makes me feel better about it!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
My FI’s sister is 50, and I am 25 (he is 35 – the “oops, I can still get pregnant?” baby!). It’s going to be interesting for sure, especially when she is the closest to my Fiance (most times – but now they’re fighting) but she can’t stand the rest of her family.
I think you’re fine, OP!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
c4rr134nn: sounds great! i dont see any reason why not, in fact i think your sister (esp if she is your only one) needs to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. 😉