Post # 1
I’m new here – recently got engaged! Yay 🙂
Anyway, to the point! I’m from African country A and my fiance is from Europe but we met in African country B. HOW do we chose a location to wed where we can get all – or the most important – our family and friends to be there. It wouldn’t be fair to make all his family travel to my home country or mine to his. We have family & friends too in African country B where we met! How do we cut costs and still get as many people as possible in one place? Any ideas?
Panic attack and I (we) haven’t even started planning the wedding! Haha
Post # 2
Congratulations! It definitely does not make wedding planning easy. We just gave up and are having one wedding in US and one in Turkey and our friends in between countries can choose which wedding to come to or to come to both. We are allowing 2 months time to relax between our weddings so we have time to really enjoy each wedding without worrying about the planning of the next. It does help that in Turkey, the groom’s family pays and in US, the bride’s family pays so each family is only out what they expected to be spending minus the flight and travel costs.
Post # 3
First of all – congrats!<br /><br />Where you decide to hold your ceremony is totally up to you and your FI and the people you want to celebrate with. The unfortunate reality is that wherever you choose there are likely people who won’t be able to be there with you, so there probably is no one “right” answer.
My FI and I struggled with our decision, because we are also international – I’m Canadian, with friends and family all across the country, but live in Japan, with my Japanese FI. After talking about various options we decided to have a reception (a few months ago) in one location in Canada and will be holding our ceremony and another reception in Japan (in a week and a half – eeeek!). In the end some people were able to travel some weren’t and it wasn’t the cheapest option, but having two celebrations meant we could celebrate in both of our homes with both of our families (or most of them, at least) and some friends. It was the best solution we could find for us and we are both happy with it.
You could do something similar – a small ceremony and simple reception where you live now either preceeded or followed by receptions/parties in each of your home countries. Spreading it out over time or doing it during a “regular” trip home might help to cut down the costs or spread them out a little.
But that is just one suggestion, you and your FI should try talking between the two of you and, depending on family and friend dynamics, maybe also with your friends and family to see what will work for you guys and those who love you – good luck figuring it out!