Post # 1
I won’t bore you with all of the details or backstory, but my Fiance and I are having a multicultural wedding ‘weekend’. My family is White and Secular, his family is North Indian and Hindu, so in the interest of keeping the peace—we’re having two weddings. Parents are paying for each, respectively. We’ve just about got everything booked, but I’m struggling to figure out what to put on the save the dates and our wedding website, because not everyone is invited to both weddings.
What’s the proper etiquette when some people are invited to one wedding, but not the other? Obviously on save the dates we can list whatever, but we’re routing everyone to our Zola website for RSVPs, general info, and our registry (yay technology!), but I’m not sure what to do on there.
Do I list both dates and hide all details under the RSVP section? Do I list no dates and everything under the RSVP? If you have a unique suggestion to this problem, please let me know what you did!
Post # 2
I would have two completely separate websites.
Post # 3
Is it two completely different weddings or just ceremony?
like, are there 2 receptions?
i also votw for 2 separate websites. You dont want people RSVPing for the wrong event or thinking they are invited to both.
Post # 4
I was afraid of this answer! D: I would hate to have to do all of that all over again.
As it stands right now, there will be two weddings and two receptions. Some people are invited to one or the other, and some are invited to both. The RSVP section of the site only shows a box where the user can enter their name to RSVP, so they can only respond to events that they’re actually invited to per the system. For example, our families can RSVP to a rehearsal dinner, but not our friends as it will not show up for them at all.
Post # 5
How did you decide the guest lists? This is different than a rehearsal dinner because everyone knows they are often only family and bridal party. It will be confusing to just have wedding 1 and wedding 2 on a website if people aren’t invited to both.
Post # 6
For the RSVP portion, it sounds like one wedding website would work but what about the informational pages?
Like address, time of ceremony, maps, parking info etc. Thats where the confusion cross over may come into play?
Post # 7
The idea of putting all of the information into the RSVP page is a good one of it limits access to only show the info for who is invited. The only downside, once they RSVP, can they still see that information?
I would be so confused if I went to the website and saw information for two events and quite honestly would think the RSVP section had messed up.
Post # 8
I think it would be a bit rude to route your guests to a website that informs them there’s another party that they’re not invited to. I think at best it will be confusing, at worst you risk offending. I would either invite everyone to everything or make two websites.
My husband and I are from different parts of the world and had two weddings – though they were in two different countries and not in the same weekend. I made two websites and it honestly wasn’t that much more work. The information for each event will be different anyway. The time consuming part is typing all that up and organizing it. Putting it under one domain name or another shouldn’t make a big difference…
Post # 9
I used Zola for my wedding website and I don’t think you have to worry about the RSVP part with Zola because guests have to enter their name to unlock the RSVP form and it only shows them the events that their invited to.
Post # 10
For context, we’re having 4 weddings(?). Sounds odd. But (1) civil wedding with 6 people including us (2) China wedding with 200 people (3) Catholic wedding with 250 people (4) Chinese Banquet with 100 people. We did all 3 this year, one more to go this January.
Since we considered (3) and (4) our major events, those were the only ones we included on our save the dates. See below screenshot for reference.
We only have one website (using Appycouple) Check http://www.ken-hen.com/cover/. We can choose which event(s) people can see. If you go to events tab you can see some events that are public for everyone and some private. I’ve made some of the church wedding events public since the date has already passed. You can also choose to put an RSVP button for each event.
To answer this question: Do I list both dates and hide all details under the RSVP section? I say yes to this unless you foresee people getting offended for not being invited to both.
One thing that we haven’t tested on our website is the registry as we did not register for anything. If my screenshots are confusing or if you have questions, do let me know.
Post # 11
We are having two weddings (western & Hindu) and I decided to not do a wedding website for this exact reason. Our invitations include all the details they need, and that way nobody has to see details for an event they aren’t invited to.
Post # 12
We had two separate websites (and two separate invitations). That was the only way we could think to keep everything straight. I was in charge of setting up and maintaining the one for “my” family and he was responsible for “his” family’s event. Only one of the weddings had ancillary events attached (welcome party, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, etc). Obviously, not all guests were invited to all of them, so we made separate inserts and included them with the relevant invitations. It honestly worked great.
Post # 13
UPDATE: We decided to go the route of two separate websites. I contacted Zola support and the guy who helped me was extremely nice and walked me through the process for that. He even copied over pages that I’d already made on the website that didn’t have conflicting information. My only complaint is that I had to redo my custom addressing on the envleopes, but that took way less time than it would have to input the guests manually, so I’ll take it.
Thank-you, ladies, for your help and suggestions!