(Closed) Multiple Family Weddings Same Year

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think what you did was sensible – you put your health first as that should rightly be your priority. Would your mother rather you have a big fancy wedding and then not be able to afford your medical bills? I do agree with you that your mother is guilting you over not having one, but at the end of the day weddings aren’t about other people but the bride and groom.

Not wanting to start a debate about the whole, “parents contributing to weddings” issue but I am of the view that what you do for one you at least try and do for the other. Seeing as your brother’s wedding and possibly your reception could be quite close together why didnt she offer you 4k and your brother 4k?

In answer to your question at the bottom…what do you and your husband want to do? Do you want a big, family do or would your prefer something more private?

Post # 4
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

The wedding industry, or someone obsessed with weddings, has sure done a number on you.

Your medical needs come first, and feeling like a failure because now is not the time  you can afford a big wedding… that is just messed up.


Post # 5
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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magee456:  I’m really sorry you’re going through so many health & financial problems!

I think you made a very reasonable choice and it’s really tough that your mom is being so hard on you about it.  I think that you and her should have a serious talk about that.  I’m sure she is hurt, but why would she pile so much stress on you?  While you’re at it I think you should clear up your restenment about her spending money on your brother’s wedding but not offering the same for yours.  Is it your right to tell her how to spend her money?  No.  But it’s your right to tell her that your feelings were hurt, under the cirucmstances.  I think you need to clear the air with your mom.

As for the wedding, I’m not sure what to do.  Weddings are fun, but sometimes you have more important things to spend your time, money, and energy on.  Maybe you can focus on planning a vow renewal for your 5 year or something further in the future so that you’ll have more time to recover?  

I’m sorry you’re going through this!

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