Post # 1
I am stuck. I don’t want to pick just ONE Maid/Matron of Honor, because I don’t want to hurt feelings or start drama. Is it ok to have 2 or 3 MOHs and have them split the responsibilities or is this just silly?
Anyone experience this..good or bad idea?
Post # 3
I had 2 MOHs and it was fine. But, then again I didn’t really have any “duties” for them aside from buy dress and show up.
Post # 4
I had two MOH’s. I felt that I couldn’t pick just one of my close friends. I’m also one of two MOH’s in a friend’s wedding. More because the other one is pregnant and also planning her own wedding and I’m a lot more available and free to help with stuff the bride might need help with.
I think its a great idea. I total had 9 bridesmaids. Two MOH’s. I didn’t have a lot of “duties” for them as an encore bride I didn’t want to push it, but they helped SO much and were so great.
Post # 5
@flowermower: do the potential MOHs know each other and already get along? I think that plays a part in the decision. My sister had 2 MOHs, her best friend and me. It worked out well, but her best friend and I are also close friends as well, who have spent time together without my sister present (I’ve known her for as long as my sister has known her–over 10 years). It was usually the 3 of us doing wedding-related things together.
Post # 6
Well I’m only having 2 bridesmaids, so either both will be Maid/Matron of Honor or neither. I’ve seen it done, where the bride had both a sister and a best friend
Post # 7
I have two MOHs – my sister and my best friend. But I didn’t give them or any of my other 5 bridesmaids any duties or responsibilities.
Post # 8
Why not just make everyone equal by making them all bridesmaids and NOT declaring someone MOH? Only one person can be #1, so if you say three people are all #1, you are really just saying everyone ties for third. It’s your wedding, however, so if the semantics make you feel better, it is fine to call everyone a Maid/Matron of Honor. To an outsider, it sounds a bit silly, but only you know how your friend will react. Only you know if they are all at a place emotionally and mentally where this is a very big deal for them, and they will be upset if you choose one or no one.
Post # 9
I’m actually going to have a maid and a matron because I couldn’t scholar so it’s a good thing that one is married and the other isn’t. I sort of think there can only be one of each but, you can start a new trend hey they mean that much to you not because of their feelings as it’s your big day.
Post # 10
I had two (my sister and my SIL) – one clearly did all the work, and the other didn’t. I regretted having two.