(Closed) multiple showers, how does this work??

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think multiple showers are fairly normal. For me, my family and FI’s family live several hours away and it’s just not feasible to have everyone go to one shower. My MoH is throwing a more general shower for my family, FI’s mother’s family and all the friends and then my FI’s aunts are throwing a separate shower just for their side of the family. I’m inviting all mothers, bridesmaids and sisters to both.

Post # 4
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

For us, we did two showers based on geography, not family ties.  FI’s family had one in their hometown (where we currently live) and my family had one in my hometown.  It was great having both, because it meant everyone got to attend, but I think it would be a little iffier if the separate showers were in the same city and with different guests because of awkwardness.  But do what you have to do.  However, if everyone’s local, I’d combine as much as possible so people can meet before the wedding and become friendly ahead of time.

Post # 5
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are 2 showers, too, based on geography. Fiance and I live in California and nobody else does, so nothing much is happening out here. Wedding is in Boston, FI’s family lives in New Jersey, and my family lives in Maryland. Our plan is to invite everyone from the NJ/NY/PA area and new england to a shower at FMIL’s house in NJ on one day. And then have another shower in Maryland at my aunt’s house for everyone in Maryland and south of there on the following day.  

It’ll be a whirlwind weekend for me, but it’ll be fun. Only our moms and my Maid/Matron of Honor are going to both showers I believe. Since it’s such a destination thing for me I had to specify I don’t want any gifts at all, let alone multiple gifts. I wouldn’t be able to take them home with me. So we’re asking people to simply ship any gifts they’d like to give to my home in California, and bring a pretty wrapped box with a picture of the item to the shower so we can still pretend to open things. We’ll see how that goes haha.

Post # 6
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had 3 showers and a bachelorette party, some people were at 2 or 3 of these 4 events! I made it clear that they didn’t need to feel obligated to come to more than one or bring a gift.  It worked out well that one was for family, one for friends, one for work.  I think everyone kind of knows where they fit in.  I also think people might not want to be invited to a shower where they don’t “fit in” or know anyone else.  It’ll all work out!  Have fun!

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