Post # 1
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Newbee
Hello, fellow bees!!
I am new here, and happened to find this site simply by googling “Having mutliple wedding rings” haha! I browsed the site and have seen a few posts regarding having 2 wedding rings, but mostly they seem to be for “legitimate” reasons (hands swell, arthritis, etc).
My guy has not proposed yet. He doesn’t want to until we have a ring… and he certainly doesnt want to choose one for me. I don’t want that either. My brain is always changing thought paths and it’s enough to me that he is willing to put up with that forever. I know that he wants me to be pleased as pie, but I just can’t make up my mind at all.
I found one ring one etsy, made with both meteorite and moissanite. The seller is working on a CAD specifcailly for me, which I love. It will never be sold to anyone else. They are also going to be including his ring, which will be inlayed with meteorite. These are perfect for us in every way. We have a shared love of the stars and it represents one of our strongest commonalities.
However. I also see opal rings, moonstone rings, rose gold with pink sapphire rings…. and I want them all. Pretty much every ring I love is under like $30. Incredibly minimal compared to the ring being designed for me at $3500.
My guy suggested the brilliant idea of me having multiple rings. Not 2, but more like 5. Something to match every mood I have (I’m like a dang roller coaster – thanks PCOS) and every outfit. I of course am totally down with having multiple rings, but didn’t want any of them to “lose meaning”. So he then suggested we stick them all on a key ring and that is what he slips on my finger during our ceremony. So that technically, all 5 rings truly are “wedding rings”.
I realize this probably all sounds totally ridiculous. I love the idea, but as I type it I sort of feel like a child. Regardless, I’m curious as to what everyone else thinks. Thoughts?
Post # 2
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Worker bee
elicea : I think if it works for you then you should do it! If it were me I was doing multiple rings however, I would want one ring to be my “real” engagement ring (probably the one that you had designed for you) that I would wear on my left ring finger every day. Then the other rings could go on your right hand ring finger as you felt “in the mood” for them. I think you are right to not want to lose the specialness of your ring!
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
Many people own multiple sets. They don’t need any reason other than, they want them. Have fun shopping!
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Could you have a small secret pocket sewn into your dress where all your rings are during your wedding and you just pick one to wear? Anyway it sounds like you are talking about having multiple engagement rings (which is not the ring you exchange at the wedding ceremony).
Are you planning to have one or multiple wedding bands to wear alongside your engagement rings?
Personally, I’m too sentimental, I change my clothes style and my lipstick colour and my other jewellery all the time, I can never plan an outfit the evening before because how would I know what I’ll be in the mood for in the morning? But my wedding set (engagement ring and wedding band) is a one-time set for life. No upgrades, alterations, stand-in rings… All other rings I desire are things I would buy to wear on other fingers than my left ring finger.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Do it!
Youre marrying the man, not the ring. The rings, while they can have sentimental value, are just pieces of metal. What they represent though is a different thing and if you and your guy are ok with it…no one gets harmed, least of all your bond.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I don’t think it’s ridiculous. I get u. Over 5 years I’ve had a few sets. I finally just for to where I really wanted to look down and have an emotional feeling towards my rings. Something my husband chose for me. Long story I received and heirloom diamond solitaire at engagement and we had titanium matching bands. I still wear the band some but I had went and chose a few new sets. So after a rough patch and 8 years together I traded in a set and my husband chose something for me. I’m wearing this ring the rest of my life. But yes, it’s just a ring. 😋
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
Go for it!! You’ll be super married. I may be biased though, I am choosing multiple bands in place of an engagement ring and love the idea of being able to switch them up and have more or less bling depending upon where I’m going and what I’m doing.
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
Do it! So many bees have several sets they wear and swap out depending on their mood that day! My husband is getting me new rings for our 10 year dating anniversary and I am thinking about getting two bands just because I can’t decide which I love more. As long as the FI/DH doesn’t mind I see no problem with it and think different strokes for different folks!
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
We are kind of like, the more the merrier over here. If someone is trying to decide between two, I always say, get both! Get whatever you want. I wear all kinds of rings. I have 2 wedding bands, and a few others I can wear as a band if I want. I do a lot of mix and match. I’m out of control.
(not mine, but one can dream)
Post # 10
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Busy bee
To me then it’s just another fashion accessory and the symbolism is totally watered down. That being said, there are no rules though and you can do what you want!
Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
elicea : You know you have other fingers, right? And a whole other hand? You can have as many rings as you want- they don’t all have to be wedding related.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Instead of getting married with all of them on a key ring why not pick one wedding band that goes with them all and just get married with that?
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
Lots of people have multiple rings. More so as time goes on and they add anniversary rings, rings to celebrate the birth of a child, and do on. Don’t forget you also have two hands and multiple other fingers you can adorn instead of your left ring ringer too! However, admittedly the only fingers I really like to wear rings are either of my ring fingers.
I think having them at the ceremony is a nice idea, you can even attach them instead to your bouquet so they are “part of the ceremony” without the dangling key ring on finger part 🙂
I did not have an engagement ring, and did have one wedding ring I married with. But since then I have had a few rings come and go, both bands and rings with centrestones.
I now am quite happy with what I have and feel like my collection is “complete”: an antique diamond cluster in platinum that is my primary left ring finger ring, an art deco marquise diamond dinner ring in platinum that is my primary right ring finger ring, a three stone H&A moissanite in yellow gold I wear on right ring finger mostly but sometimes swap to left hand, and I will soon have a moissanite OEC solitaire & diamond band soldered set in rose gold that I intend to size to wear on left as an alternate set for traveling, certain activities/hobbies, and other times I want to keep my antique ring safely at home. Oh yes, and a plain yellow comfort fit gold band, and a thin engraved yellow gold band. I sometimes pair these with other rings, or just wear them solo. So I think aside from heirlooms or being gifted a gorgeous emerald or ruby, I am done!
For me (and my husband who loves his gorgeous original and single wedding band but can’t wear it 95% of the time due to work!)) the rings are not what make the marriage. Sure, they are a symbol, but I can feel connected to what they symbolize easily no matter what ring I am or am not wearing. It is the vows I connect with most as rings can be damaged, lost, outgrown (some rings can’t be so easily sized!) and so on.
Post # 14
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Newbee
MexiPino : Thank you! You’re right! haha – the issue is that I
want them to be wedding related. The rings would indeed be rings that are much more precious to me than my standard jewelry. I have a ton of rings that I wear often and some not at all… but none of them hold any sort of “value” to me outside of money spent. In getting mutliple rings, the idea is that I wear only one at any time, and that each still holds sentimental value as they are all still there to represent the same thing (marriage). Wearing any of them on any other finger makes them a ring that my guy or I could have purchased at any other time just because, rather than as wedding artifact.
Post # 15
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Newbee
amandajane4949 : Bahaha! Out of control. I know that feeling. Thanks for the laugh (and the support!)!!