(Closed) Mum told me I'm 'too old' to wear a real wedding dress!

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Glad you chose the dress that makes you happy.  Personally,  I think know you’re too old for anything once you stop laughing.   πŸ™‚

Post # 3
7658 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

LonnyLee:  No one would be whispering negatively about the dress except her. White is fine at any age – as is grey. Well done for shutting her out, and I’m glad you chose exactly what you wanted.

Post # 4
589 posts
Busy bee

LonnyLee:  I’m sure you will look gorgeous in what ever you have chosen. It’s your special day and if you are comfortable and confident in what you have chosen,that is all that matters. I often think golden tones instead of white look nice on “more mature” brides too.

Post # 5
297 posts
Helper bee

I hate when people cut eachother down by saying “you’re too old for that” πŸ™ who are they to tell anyone else how to live?? RUDE! first it makes me angry, but then it makes me feel really sad for those people- they’ve clearly given up the things that make them happy in life b/c of some imaginary social ‘rule’ and now misery loves company so they’re trying to impose those lame ‘rules’ on everyone else as well. Well we only have 1 life and I’m going to be happy doing whatever the hell I want! πŸ™‚ and I am so glad you live by your own rules, too! I hope you have a wonderful wedding and feel extra special and beautiful in the dress you love!

Post # 6
1221 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

LonnyLee:  Gosh, how terribly unsupportive. You made the right call on leaving her out of dress shopping, age has nothing to do with what color or style you can wear. Have you ever made her aware of how hurtful her comments can be?

Post # 7
9620 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Your mother is wrong.  You can wear the dress that makes you feel beautiful.  Age is irrelevant.  Besides, 40 is very  young to those of us on the other side of it.

Wear the dress you love.  Mother doesn’t know best.  She’s stuck in some kind of time warp or being deliberstely unkind.

Post # 9
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

LonnyLee:  I think you will be a lovely bride! The other day I was at a drugstore and got into a conversation with a sweet lady who told me she was getting married and she showed off her ring and told me about her Fiance and her dress and her honeymoon and all these things she had planned, and she was actually 75 years old she told me. But she was so happy she glowed from the inside out. A bride is never too old for anything, especially when she is happy and in love! Congratulations to you! πŸ™‚

Post # 10
2257 posts
Buzzing bee

I was 38 when I got married in a big ol’ ivory and champage ball gown. Our generation is different than your mother’s. So many women are marrying later these days because they are establishing themselves first. I’m so sorry your mom is not supportive at all. Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds like she is and that’s wonderful!

I also posted because I would love to see your dress! It sounds divine. I love dark grey. Can you post of a pic of it, pretty please? πŸ™‚

Post # 11
57 posts
Worker bee

Congratulations on finding your dream gown. I’m glad you had the common sense not to share it with her. You don’t want to be second guessing your decision. 

Post # 12
9546 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh hell no!!! I would have had a few choice words for your mother! That’s a ridiculous statement. Like you can be too old for love and marriage?!?

My dad always uses a statement that comes to mind “It’s better to be silent and have people think you’re an idiot than to open your mouth and confirm their oppinion.”

All that being said, I’m sure you have a stunning dress and you’ll be a beautiful bride. So her comment didn’t hit the mark. But don’t let her spout this nonsense in the future if she starts disparaging perfectly reasonable choices just because of your age, which is mostly irrelevant as a bride.

Post # 13
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

LonnyLee: Sounds like you made the right decision. My mum was 24 the first times she married, 56 the second time.

Her first wedding she was skint and white wasn’t her style, she wore her favourite dress which was flowy with a (floral) purple pattern.

Second time round she had proper money and still zero inclination to wear white (or spend thousands on a ‘one wear’ dress). Technically this marriage was much more traditional (conducted by her parish priest etc) but she was still herself. She killed it in a royal blue chiffon dress, empire waisted with a deep v. No one had ever seen her in something so flattering (or formal).

You’re never too old to be yourself, what ever that means for you!

Post # 15
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Love it! Ignore your mom and her nonsense. You will rock that dress!!!

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