- Scott Pullar
- 4 years ago
im posting on here to see if i am really overeacting or if my parents deserve to be in my life after this, to get the story off the boat my parents have never taken a liking to my now Wife and this is genuinly for no as reason she has tried with them all for nothing back, she even slapped my wife and then proceded to lie about it even though she admitted it when she first did it.
We got married in June but prior to this my mum was treating the whole event like it was her day it even got the the point where she was trying to push herself into my wifes bridal dress shopping, this was wholey down to the fact my mother wanted a daughter and not a son and took absolutely no interest in me but thats another issue, and the lead up to the wedding never actually felt like our day and more like her day.
Push forward to the wedding day at the venue i was proceding to try and ensure that all of the guests were comfotable and that everything was running smoothly however she was trying to demand all of the attention and generally making herself a fool whilst making me feel very uncomfortable. the ceremony went great no hiccups there however during the wedding breakfast we greeted everyone as they were coming in this was lovely as we got to thank everyone personally for coming in, however my mother decided that she would purposley avoid my new wife and give her the cold shoulder, of course this upset my wife greatly which in turn ruined our wedding breakfast. On to the speeches and of course when it came to me i thanked my parents for raising me well cracked a few jokes however we gave out presents to everyone who helped pay towards our wedding and we had already stated this to everyone as we were on a budget and could not just buy presents for everyone, (which my parents did not pay anything) this proceded to my mother storming out because she didnt get a present dragging 10 guests with her to “calm her down” she does this alot when she wants to be the centre of attention however i never thought she would do this on my wedding day.
I of course took solace in my grandad asking what i had done he of course said nothing and that my mother was trying to ruin my day howver this loomed over us when we were supposed to be celebrating the day of our marriage, my dad proceded to drag me away and have a rant at me about how i wasnt making my mum feel special when i had been trying to cater to her every need in the morning before the cermony i even stayed at their house the night before to spend time with them, but the one time she needed to make us feel special she couldnt do it (my dad is an enabeler and will never get mad at her or see her in the wrong) this proceded me having to go to my room and get away from it all for about 30 minuites and it took my wife to calm me down and actually get me back to the party.
My parents completely boycotted the cake cutting and the first dance this of course put me lower and lower as the day was going on in all my wedding day which was meant to be the happiest ending up being one of the lowest. we went off on honeymoon and everything seemed normal we got back (we were living at my parents as we had some money issues leading up to the wedding) and they kicked us out on the first day back no warning or anything we ended up in huge amount of debt as we wernt prepared and are now stuck in a bad situation with money all over my parents dislike for my wife which we still do not understand why and the fact she did not get a present for not doing anything to contribute to the wedding apart from try and make herself the star of the show.
Fast forward and now my mother is demanding to be back in my life they show up at are house banging on the door refusing to leave ( we just ignore them and wait for them to leave) i just cant bring myself to let them back into my life and it doesnt help that everyone keeps saying things like you only have one set of parents or they are your parents you cant exclude them from your life.