Post # 1
So.. it’s almost a week more to my wedding day and I’m having a very tough and stressful time dealing with my mum.
She insist that we have to invite so and so distant relatives (grand aunt & grand uncle and their families and HER cousins- btw, my grandparents have passed away) just because they invited her to theirs etc. The thing is I hardly know them and we are planning an intimate wedding celebration.
I tried very hard to explain we are having an intimate wedding celebration only inviting people dearest and closest to us and we hope to provide the best food we could offer but it seems that she refuse to understand any part of it.
I have already gave in on inviting a grand aunt and her husband and some of her friends whom I’ve never met but she insists on more. What do you suggest I should do?? Sighh..
Post # 3
My parents tried this too. I told them that if they want me to invite extended family, then they can pay the exact cost per person. Otherwise, Hell was freezing over before I paid another 200/head for people I didn’t care about.
Post # 4
@momolove: Its a week until the wedding. I think you have a couple options:
- Tell her that it would be clear to anyone who receives an invitation now that they are on the Blist and would be insulted as a last minute addition.
- Tell her that it is too late to add anyone because the caterer needed final numbers already
- Tell her the venue is too small and you can’t afford to lose the deposit. Or that the venue is too small and you can’t afford to rent a larger one
- Tell her you won’t have enough favors, programs, ect. for everyone
- Invite them and assume they won’t come because the notice is too short (best for out of town relatives who would need to fly/drive and rent a hotel room)
I would pick your favorite and have a second answer lined up if she comes up with an excuse (like offering to pay for them/the lost deposit).
Or just say, “Mom, I’m sorry but this is my wedding. I have invited everyone I want to the wedding already. If you would like to throw a post wedding reception a few weeks after the wedding for your family you are more than welcome to.”
Post # 5
@momolove: your wedding is a week away. do you really think those distant relatives are going to feel “wanted” at your wedding? tell your mother to drop it. this will insult them more than not inviting them.
Post # 6
Are you still having a wedding overseas?If so,doesn’t seem like people would have time to make arrangements.I would tell her it is too late to invite them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I would just put your foot down and say no to your mother. Let her know that she should drop it and that you don’t need the added stress of inviting additional guests you don’t even know to a wedding that is just a week away. Who does that anyway? It just seems ludicrous to me that your mom would add this amount of stress to her daughter when you are supposed to be making final preparations and relaxing before the wedding. I’m sorry you are having to go through this…just breathe and have a glass of wine (or preferred libation). 🙂
Post # 8
Thank u so much bees for giving me your support here!
I truly appreciate your suggestions! I shall say I gave the confirmed number to the caterer and I doubt the distant relatives will appreciate being invited a week prior to the wedding.
I will be meeting up with my mum tomorrow along with Fiance and my future Father-In-Law and I hope we could settle everything for good.