- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
If you wanted everyone to see it you wouldn’t be doing a first look. You mom will see the pics later, and the look on your faces as you go up the aisle will be just as special and excited.
I say stand your ground. She’ll see the pictures later. Your FL should be between you and future hubby. No one else has a “right” to be there regardless of how they may act about it.
You gotta draw the line with parents. Especially moms. If you stand your ground she’ll see her daughter’s grown up to be a woman with a spine! She’ll get over it and just feel proud 🙂
Stand your ground! I really don’t have anything else to add that other ladies haven’t already said, just wanted to give you another vote to tell mom it’s a moment between you and your FH, and that’s it.
I agree with the above posters. Stand your ground politely but firmly. I know that in the wedding I was just in, the Future Father-In-Law, some siblings, and all of us bridesmaids were in to watch the first look…but I guess it turns out the bride had wanted some alone time :-/ They did it in the sanctuary where people were already camping out, so I felt really bad after she’d mentioned it later.
I can see my mom being like yours. I’ll just reiterate to her that it is a private moment between the two of us, and that she can get all sorts of great, happy photos ten minutes later once the formal/group photos start. And, if you’re a bit of a goofball/sassypants like me, I’d remind my mother that this is just one of many things that Fiance and I wll be doing ALONE that parents are NOT invited to. She can’t cut the cake with us, she will not be in our first dance, and she’s not coming to our room that night. She’ll get the point. 🙂
Hell. No. Respectfully.
My assumption from your description is that your mother is already being disrespectful towards you, being controling and using guilt trips to get her way. If I am correct in this assumption you should say NO in no uncertain terms. She’s not only asking you for an intrustion on a private moment but using you to control your Fiance as well. And you don’t want to start a pattern of– “I’d rather fight with my Fiance than my mother”. You know? Your Fiance has to be number 1 and you need boundries with your parents to have a healthy marriage.
I feel this is a private moment and you and future husband need to do what is right for the two of you and if privacy is what you want, then stick to your guns.
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