- 6 years ago
I don’t need advice or anything, just some sympathetic ears.
So I got married… Almost a month ago now, it was beautiful but simple. We didn’t want to sacrifice our savings just for one day, but we had everything we wanted and we were happy.
A week ago my mother called me and told me her and her partner of the last year or two are getting married in a few weeks. I wasn’t very shocked, I’ve known that was the eventual plan, and my grandparents are rapidly deteriorating so it needs to happen sooner rather than later. I was genuinely happy to hear the news. My mother talked about holding it at my grandparents house, just a simple ceremony with immeadiate family and holding a party later on with her friends.
Then a couple of days later I get a phone call, she’s decided that’s not an option because her family and her partner’s family are too large for my grandparents house. So she’s looking for venues. I’m supportive, and start researching venues for her. She hates all but one, the insanely fancy one that didn’t have any pricing on the website. Never a good sign. It’s a beautiful venue that I’ve been to quite a few times before, it’s a heritage listed collection of buildings where lots of community events are held.
So she goes and meets with them. Their pricing is insane… Minimum spend is $18,500. My whole wedding cost $12,000. But the whole place is just stunning… It’s worth every cent type thing. It’s a dream wedding type venue.
And so she said yes. Yes to the insanely expensive venue. They’re getting it for a much better price because her wedding will be the middle of winter (June in Australia is freezing) and it’s on such short notice they would never book anything else but I’m still having… Jealousy I guess.
I was supposed to be the one with the special wedding. The perfect big day. 2012 was supposed to be our year… We’ve been together 5 years, we’d really put a lot of time and thought and effort into our wedding and now my mother’s is going to be bigger and better and more exciting just because she’s throwing more money at it and getting insanely lucky with it being last minute and cold.
And I’m happy for her and her husband to be, I want to be 100% supportive of them, but I just feel this is niggling away at the back of my mind. I am so happy that they’ve been so lucky to get this amazing venue, but I am also feeling a bit robbed of my special-ness. I was happier when it was at my grandparents and was just about their love for one other instead of this huge flashy wedding that they’re suddenly doing.
Argh I just need to bite my tongue and get over myself! My mother and her partner deserve all the happiness in the world, and they were really supportive through my husband and my wedding. I just needed to articulate some of my jealousy, and hopefully some of you bees will feel sympathy and make me feel a little better!