Post # 1
So my fiancé and I are getting married at a Catholic church. Neither of us are familiar with Catholic ceremonies.
We are meeting with the priest next week, so I can find out then, but I would like to be warned if the answer isn’t what I’m hoping for!
Question: has anyone played non-traditional music for their Catholic wedding? I absolutely hate the traditional songs, and I have been dreaming of walking down the aisle to “can’t help falling in love” by Elvis (or a cover of that).
Hoping to hear that some of you have been able to! This priest is younger, and has also been accepting of usliving together before marriage. So I’m hoping he is also open to non-traditional songs.
Thank you in advance and I look forward to all your lovely comments! <3
Post # 3
@mint_to_be: I sympathise, because I actually like very few hymns, and the ones I like don’t seem very wedding-like to me. The typical Catholic wedding is in a Mass; the music is very similar to what you would hear on Sunday, but the couple usually pick hymns that mention love or are somehow meaningful to them. You can find out more ceremony details at http://www.catholicweddinghelp.com/. Sometimes they play the “Ave Maria” after communion. Are there absolutely no hymns, traditional or contemporary, that you or your fiance like? I’ve never heard of any Catholics succeeding at getting non-worship music in their ceremony, particularly if it has lyrics, but you MIGHT have one of the few priests that will let you. Is your priest the pastor of the parish? If he is not, he will not be able to bend the rules further than the pastor (effectively, his boss) will allow. The reason very few of them will allow romantic love songs or is that the whole marriage ceremony is geared toward the worship of God as the couple marry, so all of the music is supposed to be a prayer to God. Elvis did perform some hymns, such as “How Great Thou Art,” so maybe you could use a recording of that. Perhaps you could just have instrumentalists if you don’t like the words to anything, and could find a tune you think is pretty. Good luck!
Post # 4
@mint_to_be: I bought a wedding music CD that has over 30 different songs to choose from. I’m definitely not going traditional for anything in my ceremony.
Post # 5
@mint_to_be: i’d ask the priest that’s marrying you. Our priest is very laid back. We hired a string duet, and he said as long as there’s no “bar room music”, he’s fine with whatever we choose. So, maybe hire a musician and forego the singer?
Post # 6
@mint_to_be: yes! I think it depends on the priests preference to be honest some are really old school, some are more progressive…… I know people who have been told NOTHING unless its a church song, or has the words god/jesus or whatever….
ours let us play whatever we wanted including lyrics lol. I was like…can I get that in writing?? I had:
Train Marry me for the priest/my parents/DH and Darling Husband parents walking in
The piano guys a thousand years for the processional
Ellie Gouldings “Your Song” for the signing of the license
Israel Kaw…………. (cant spell) over the rainbow for the recessional
Post # 7
This is what we are doing for our ceremony:
Bridesmaids march – Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring, Johann Sebastian Bach
Bridal march – Canon in D, Johann Pachelbel
Responsorial – Psalm 33, The Earth Is Full of The Goodness of The Lord
Alleluia – John 4:12, If we love one another God remains in us, and His love is brought to perfection in us
Offertory – I Have Loved You, Michael Joncas
Communion – When Love Is Found, Brian Wren
Meditation – Ave Maria, Franz Schubert, Op. 52
Recessional – Wedding March (from “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”), Felix Mendelssohn