(Closed) Muslim and Arab Bees HELP HELP HELP HELP

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I am neither Muslim nor Arab… I could probably still help, but there’s missing info which I would need to know.

– Will the ceremony be Islamic, Catholic, or secular? It does make a difference. She can’t have an Islamic ceremony as Muslim women are forbidden outright to marry non-Muslim men… UNLESS he is converting before the wedding. Now, most of the formal parts of Islamic weddings are arranged privately, but it is possible to have a public nikah etc… so what exactly is the ceremony all about?

– When you say the bride does not veil, do you mean she does not wear hijab? I have to check because “veil” can mean different things.

– Will either the bride or the groom be converting?

Personally, I would wear a dress with at least some sort of sleeve (as the shoulders and the back can be considered erotic areas of the body in some countries… not sure about Morocco). I would wear a dress which was knee length or longer, but I think the Jenny Packham is too formal. The red dress is too short, IMO, but would probably be OK for a henna party.

Also, it will be HOT. I would wear something a bit grecian and flowing, myself, maybe with a removeable cardigan or wrap so that if you’re dying of heatstroke, or if everyone is dressed less conservatively than you fear, you can remove the wrap. think light and flowy!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

There are soooo many beautiful kaftans you can get over there! The downside is they tend to be of heavier materials so they can be HOT! That might not be a big deal depending on where in the country you are…when and where is the wedding?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@bbfyso:  I’m a little confused because they can’t be officially married under Islamic rite if the groom is not converting… so I would expect that they will probably have a secular ceremony with Islamic blessing of some sort.

In that case, yes… covering up is probably a good idea. I would definitely go for shrug, bolero or cardigan rather than long sleeves, because you can remove the shrug after the ceremony if it gets too hot. Don’t worry about your hair too much. Unless the bride specifies that people are to dress modestly, I suspect she is expecting you not to worry about covering your head, especially as she doesn’t do so herself.

The henna party will be girls only. I have never been to one before, but they sound like lots of fun! From what I hear, you should expect lots of older ladies to tell risque stories in order to educate the “blushing bride” about “the act of marriage!”.

I personally love the Duchess of Cambridge’s dress which you posted, and I think it would be suitably cool. I would probably put a modesty panel or something in the front though, so you aren’t showing as much cleavage. Beyond that, I think it’s fine. I don’t think you need long sleeves… you’ll boil! If you feel exposed, wearing something on top is probably better, IMO.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First, there is nothing Arab-related about this wedding.  Moroccans are not Arabs.  Second, you really need guidance from the bride, rather than asking people who don’t know them about what might be appropriate for a Muslim wedding.  I went to the wedding of a friend who is a very traditional Muslim — the wedding hall was divided and everything — but she told us to wear what we were comfortable with.

My personal opinion — all three dresses you’ve shown are pretty flashy, and even with “modesty panels” the sheer parts and short sleeves are far from traditionally “modest” on #1 and #3, and #2 is… short.

Just my two cents…  don’t guess, ask the bride.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Has the bride set up a website?  If she doesn’t mention attire in the invitation, I would hope that if it’s an issue there would be some guidance on a website or through email/Facebook.  Check for a website first.  If there isn’t one, contact the bride directly for advice on what would be appropriate.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with PP that said you have to talk to the bride. What she wears to your wedding is not really all that relevant. Just because she is Muslim is not enough information as attire and customs vary significantly geographically. If they are very Westernized (which I’m guessing from the sound of it), I think any of the longer dresses you posted should be fine and I only am picking the longer ones because it is black tie. However, if she is choosing to have a very conservative wedding (perhaps because her family is conservative), then you may need to wear a long sleeved, higher neck outfit and possibly a veil.

As such, I would absolutely ask her and I’m sure others in your situation are asking her as well.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If she’s going to be vague, have a conversation with her letting her know that she needs to be more specific for her guests who aren’t aware of customs in Morocco.  You don’t want to offend her family or locals in the country.  If she still won’t be specific then I would be sending the pictures to her (you don’t have to send exactly the picture if you don’t want her to know what you’re wearing but send something with similar necklines, sleeves, and length.)  Hopefully after a few emails/phonecalls she will get the idea that it’s better to provide some guidelines than be vague about it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@bbfyso:  If oyu’re not worried about hair because you can ask the other women how they will wear it then why do you not ask them about their dresses too?

 

Personally I would wear something that covers the shoulders at least and comes to the knee or longer to the morrocan wedding as well.

 

the blue dress above I think is very appropriate and will be great to wear

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why don’t you just ask the bride?

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