Post # 1
I just received an invitation to a Wedding in MORROCO. I dont know what to wear!!!!
A little backround: the Bride is French. Mom is Morrocan and Father is French. She has lived her entire life in France. She is muslim No veil. The groom: Is portuguese Catholic. French.
The wedding will be in her Village in Morroco and my Husban is close friends with them so he really wants to come.
The wedding invitation doesnt say anything about a dress code.
I have a reputation of wearing very very short dresses….Lol.
The bride concerned came to my black tie wedding…in a blue random knee lenght dress and a black suit jacket. So….I dont think her wedding will be very formal.
These are the outfits I can think of…I have this Jenny Packham dress and I can have my seamstress add fabric to the Bust area and Back. So I wont be showing skin.
Then outfit number 2.
I have this dress in red and in turquoise. And I would wear the dress with black black black black tights with a lace print. And nice shoes….what do you think?
I also need a Dress for Henna!!!!! What do you suggest.
Post # 3
I am neither Muslim nor Arab… I could probably still help, but there’s missing info which I would need to know.
– Will the ceremony be Islamic, Catholic, or secular? It does make a difference. She can’t have an Islamic ceremony as Muslim women are forbidden outright to marry non-Muslim men… UNLESS he is converting before the wedding. Now, most of the formal parts of Islamic weddings are arranged privately, but it is possible to have a public nikah etc… so what exactly is the ceremony all about?
– When you say the bride does not veil, do you mean she does not wear hijab? I have to check because “veil” can mean different things.
– Will either the bride or the groom be converting?
Personally, I would wear a dress with at least some sort of sleeve (as the shoulders and the back can be considered erotic areas of the body in some countries… not sure about Morocco). I would wear a dress which was knee length or longer, but I think the Jenny Packham is too formal. The red dress is too short, IMO, but would probably be OK for a henna party.
Also, it will be HOT. I would wear something a bit grecian and flowing, myself, maybe with a removeable cardigan or wrap so that if you’re dying of heatstroke, or if everyone is dressed less conservatively than you fear, you can remove the wrap. think light and flowy!
Post # 4
@Rachel631: Thanks a lot for the help!!! I am soooo so so so so so so lost.
They are having a Catholic wedding in Portugal….and then the week after..they are having an Islamic wedding in Morroco.
About the ceremony I have no idea and the invitation is soooo vague. It doesnt say a thing.
We have to arrive 2 days before the wedding….I have an invitation just for me for the Henna. Husband not invited. But basicly the invitation just tells you to say yes or no……
The dress is a little longer on me…since I am 5″2.
It is official I have nothing to wear!!!!
I was thinking of wearing a strapless dress but wear it with a bolero on top. My husband makes fun of me he told me my long long hair will have to hide because it will be to provocartive. He teases me but gives me no guidance.
I have even thought if buying a ketan ant altering it…a bit here and there….I ll keep you posted! and if you have any ideas…..pictures welcome welcome they are
Post # 5
@Rachel631: What do you think of this one I could order it with 3 quarter sleeves
Post # 6
There are soooo many beautiful kaftans you can get over there! The downside is they tend to be of heavier materials so they can be HOT! That might not be a big deal depending on where in the country you are…when and where is the wedding?
Post # 7
@bbfyso: I’m a little confused because they can’t be officially married under Islamic rite if the groom is not converting… so I would expect that they will probably have a secular ceremony with Islamic blessing of some sort.
In that case, yes… covering up is probably a good idea. I would definitely go for shrug, bolero or cardigan rather than long sleeves, because you can remove the shrug after the ceremony if it gets too hot. Don’t worry about your hair too much. Unless the bride specifies that people are to dress modestly, I suspect she is expecting you not to worry about covering your head, especially as she doesn’t do so herself.
The henna party will be girls only. I have never been to one before, but they sound like lots of fun! From what I hear, you should expect lots of older ladies to tell risque stories in order to educate the “blushing bride” about “the act of marriage!”.
I personally love the Duchess of Cambridge’s dress which you posted, and I think it would be suitably cool. I would probably put a modesty panel or something in the front though, so you aren’t showing as much cleavage. Beyond that, I think it’s fine. I don’t think you need long sleeves… you’ll boil! If you feel exposed, wearing something on top is probably better, IMO.
Post # 8
First, there is nothing Arab-related about this wedding. Moroccans are not Arabs. Second, you really need guidance from the bride, rather than asking people who don’t know them about what might be appropriate for a Muslim wedding. I went to the wedding of a friend who is a very traditional Muslim — the wedding hall was divided and everything — but she told us to wear what we were comfortable with.
My personal opinion — all three dresses you’ve shown are pretty flashy, and even with “modesty panels” the sheer parts and short sleeves are far from traditionally “modest” on #1 and #3, and #2 is… short.
Just my two cents… don’t guess, ask the bride.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Has the bride set up a website? If she doesn’t mention attire in the invitation, I would hope that if it’s an issue there would be some guidance on a website or through email/Facebook. Check for a website first. If there isn’t one, contact the bride directly for advice on what would be appropriate.
Post # 10
@Rachel631: I have no idea what they are doing…I know they arent telling the catholic priest they are having a Muslim wedding after…so I am pretty sure they are cheating…..on both sides.
I am confused to!!! I know what a Henna Party is because I have already been to a couple…but the Weddings I have attended were here in Canada so…I wore whatever I already had.
Thanks a lot for the tips! 🙂
@worldtraveler: I am worried they wont fit me properly I dont like when clothes dont sit properly on my body I am short and I have an hourglass figure If I wear something not close to my skin…I look like a BALLOON
Post # 11
I agree with PP that said you have to talk to the bride. What she wears to your wedding is not really all that relevant. Just because she is Muslim is not enough information as attire and customs vary significantly geographically. If they are very Westernized (which I’m guessing from the sound of it), I think any of the longer dresses you posted should be fine and I only am picking the longer ones because it is black tie. However, if she is choosing to have a very conservative wedding (perhaps because her family is conservative), then you may need to wear a long sleeved, higher neck outfit and possibly a veil.
As such, I would absolutely ask her and I’m sure others in your situation are asking her as well.
Post # 12
@beachbride1216: The bride is european! No website…no save the date…the wedding invitation doesnt have a croquis…..nothing…I spoke to her and she is sooooo vague!!!
First I asked her for her wedding in portugal….she told me…she imagines people will wear knee lenght and long dresses..and the men light suits….
and for her Morrocan Wedding she told me dont wear anything to provocative…but my defnition can be very different….
thats why I am asking for help.
I also have the problem …lol that I tend to wear fab dresses. People always compliment me at events……so I naturally want to wear something nice…but I dont want to be over dressed either.
In Mexico for weddings….we really really get dressed up. And compared to the weddings I have attended in europe you really can tell the difference. So I am a bit lost.
I am not worried about my hair for instance because I will ask the other girls what they are doing and I will do something similar.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If she’s going to be vague, have a conversation with her letting her know that she needs to be more specific for her guests who aren’t aware of customs in Morocco. You don’t want to offend her family or locals in the country. If she still won’t be specific then I would be sending the pictures to her (you don’t have to send exactly the picture if you don’t want her to know what you’re wearing but send something with similar necklines, sleeves, and length.) Hopefully after a few emails/phonecalls she will get the idea that it’s better to provide some guidelines than be vague about it.
Post # 14
@bbfyso: If oyu’re not worried about hair because you can ask the other women how they will wear it then why do you not ask them about their dresses too?
Personally I would wear something that covers the shoulders at least and comes to the knee or longer to the morrocan wedding as well.
the blue dress above I think is very appropriate and will be great to wear
Post # 15
Why don’t you just ask the bride?
Post # 16
@lilbluebird: My wedding was Black tie. And she wore a dress I would wear to work. This is relevant because it tells me what she thinks is ” Extremly formal”.
Her wedding is not black tie. She didnt write anything in the invitation as to what to wear.
I asked her and she is sooo vague. I dont think her family is very tradtional or her mother wouldnt have married a Non muslim. From what she explained to me her wedding is Semi formal. But again she and I have different concepts. And I dont know what is appropriate for a Muslim wedding.